Eros Coaching is a sexuality and intimacy coaching company which believes in the innate solutions we each already hold in achieving and enjoying a fulfilling, healthy and pleasurable life.
A short clip of a 6 year old sharing her concept of a community she will have when she grows up, based on Gift Economy. Unstaged, unprepared, just straight from the heart...
Listen to her, it is her generation that will see the world operate this way, after all! It is from the children that we will about the world to come, for they, as Khalil Gibran says, "live in the house of tomorrow".
And if you like it, share as much as you can.
There are a million hits on a clip of a 6 year old singing "If I Die Young"... Help this video get a million hits, too, if you enjoy its message of life.
What is your relationship with yor vulva? Have you ever looked "down there"? Sign up for our Genital Drawing workshop and be part of our Down There exhibition!
Description: Footage from the New View campaign's Vulvagraphics: An Intervention in Honor of Female Genital Diversity - an activist-exhibition held during October 2009 in Brooklyn, NYC, to speak back to the rise in female genital cosmetic surgeries.
Council for Third Age and Eros Coaching are proud to present three workshops designed for senior males, females and couples above 50s. Singaporeans, permanent residents and expatriates are welcomed.
3:30 - 5:30p.m. - Conscious Connecting for Couples
Capacity: 20 pax per session
Venue: SMU, Lee Kong Chian School of Business, Level 3, Classroom 3.1
Registration is FREE on a first-come-first-reserved basis. Please RSVP by emailing Mr. Andrew Tan at andrew.tan@c3a.org.sg or call (65) 6478-5046 by Monday 5 Mar 2012.
This workshop aims to acknowledge the physical changes that happen to a woman as she goes through old age symptoms like perimenopause and menopause, and to educate her on what she can do if she would like to continue having physical intimacy with her spouse. Participants will also learn breathing techniques and exercises to stay sexually healthy.
This workshop aims to acknowledge the physical changes that happen to a man as he goes through old age symptoms likeandropause, and to educate him on what he can do if he is experiencing sexual dysfunctional problems. Participants will also learn breathing techniques and exercises to stay sexually healthy.
This workshop seeks to educate senior couples on the importance of communicating honestly with each other as their bodies go through physiological changes. How exactly can seniors connect intimately with their partners? This clothes-on workshop explores the four different types of touch: Giving, Receiving, Absorbing, Allowing. Understanding and practising these distinctions will change the way seniors experience touch and shift their personal relationships fundamentally.
A good video talking about the female hymen and why we should stop focusing on it. You may wish to check out my micro sites: Virginity.com.sg and Vaginismus.com.sg.
The Archive for Sexology - http://www2.hu-berlin.de/sexology/ Course 1: Sexual Anatomy
Ono "sang" her conceptual artwork "Voice Piece for Soprano" at the Museum of Modern Art, and now it's on YouTube, so you can watch it as many times as you like! In case you are not sure, she is vocalising an orgasm.
Join us for a fun and casual preview of the Sex and Consciousness Conference! Meet and interact with all 5 speakers (Dr. Martha Lee, Heiko and Selina Niedermeyer as well as, Deej Juventin and Uma Furman), and get a glimpse into what will be covered at the conference. You will also get to do fun exercises using breathe, touch and gaze during the preview. This party is meant for you to let your hair down, meet new people, and have a good time!
Enjoy a discount when you sign up for the Sex and Consciousness Conference at the pre-conference preview!
Date: Wed 14th March 2012
Time: 7.30p.m. – 9.30p.m.
Venue: Wasabi Yoga, 54c South Bridge Road Singapore 058685
Heiko and Selina Niedermeyer are International Releasers who have successfully facilitated individuals and groups around the world since 1999, to release emotional and mental negative programing and belief systems about themselves that cause issues in their relationships, sexuality, careers, businesses, finances, physical health and other areas of their lives.
Deej Juventin
Deej runs Sex Coaching and Therapy in Brisbane, Australia, and runs workshops throughout the region. Drawing, from somatic sex education, Tantra, Taoism and sexual shamanism, his work focuses on supporting people to overcome distractions and obstacles to access more pleasure in their lives, and to learn skills to connect more fully with their physical, emotional, and erotic selves, to the people in their lives, and to the environments that support us. Although he works with people of all genders and sexualities, he is an expert on men’s sexual health issues, and regularly facilitates at men’s events in Australia. He teaches the Certificate in Sexological Bodywork training in Australia, and is the President of the Somatic Sex Educators’ Association of Australasia.
Uma Furman
Based in Australia, Uma Furman is an experienced Tantrica and a certified sexological bodyworker who works with individuals, couples, and groups. She provides training in sacred sexual practices like Tantra Taoism and sexual shamanism. She is passionate about educating people from all walks of life to experience a deeper connection with themselves, their partners and their environment. She is a faculty member on the Sexological bodywork Australian training program and a member of the Somatic Sex Educators’ Association of Australasia.
This article first appeared the Good Vibrations Magazine.
Asia
Asia is the home of 120.9 million Catholics and some 75 million of them live in the Philippines, where the Council of Bishops has waged an implacable war on family planning, using its power to drive politicians from office for opposing them.
Singapore
S’poreans on Yaw’s vanishing act: Leaving the country is not right Singaporean women prefer tall men Singaporeans hard to please in bed: survey Criminalising marital rape 'worth looking into' Number of marriages in Singapore surpasses 27,000 for first time According to a Health Promotion Board's spokesperson, parent-child communication on sexuality can mitigate negative peer pressure to have pre-marital sex. Beauty industry tops complaints list for 2nd year. Last year, 1,565 complaints were lodged with the Consumers Association of Singapore (Case) against the industry, making it the most griped-about industry for the second consecutive year. School principal, top civil servants among 80 involved in online vice probe "F*** living a lie" - a Valentines Day special Prank gone wrong: JC boys who took pics of themselves kissing in school punished Anime lover takes cardboard GF for 'honeymoon' across Asia Three secret cameras found: Teacher arrested His Valentine's roses for sex workers
The Philippines
The New Bilibid Prison (NBP) in Muntinlupa City spewed another scandal on trenchant sex trading inside the state penitentiary. Forum answer: Marriage annulment too costly, lengthy process Forum answer: Marriage valid despite wrong surname used in marriage license Networks show support for new SPG rating Unhappy Valentine’s Day: The HIV Surge
Bangladesh
Bangladesh teens commit suicide on Valentine's Day
China
China ranks third in the world in the number of cosmetic procedures (both surgical and non-surgical) performed in 2010, indicates a report released in December 2011 by the International Society of Aesthetic Plastic Surgery (ISAPS). 80% of post-80s youths say they're not homophobic Gay couples try, and fail, to get hitched on Valentine's Day 38-year-old self-proclaimed virgin creates website to stop youngsters from having sex Ram and deer to marry at Yunnan zoo on Valentine's Day
Disclaimer: Some of these media reports may portray sex and sexuality in a negative light. I am merely re-reporting them and may not always agree with the reports or opinions expressed.
Disclaimer: Some of these media reports may portray sex and sexuality in a negative light. I am merely re-reporting them and may not always agree with the reports or opinions expressed. Dr. Martha Lee is Founder and Clinical Sexologist of Eros Coaching in Singapore. She is a certified sexologist with American College of Sexologists with a Doctorate in Human Sexuality from Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality. She is available to provide sexuality and intimacy coaching for individuals and couples, conduct sexual education workshops and speak at public events in Asia. For more, visit www.eroscoaching.com.
As part of our Febulove campaign in February, these are our remaining workshops which you can sign up for:
Fri 24 Feb - Pucker Up: Kissing (7.30p.m. - 9.30p.m.)
For singles/ couples:
“What is a kiss? Why this, as some approve: the sure, sweet cement, glue and lime of love.” – Robert Herrick
Ever heard of the Candy Kiss, Upside-Down Kiss, French Kiss, Earlobe Kiss, or Nip Kiss? You will once you join the workshop that turns KISSING into an art that you can master! All you need is the willingness to explore the possibilities and you will definitely find yourself enjoying new, fun, and flirty kisses with your partner. Learning these creative kisses will definitely make your partner want to pucker up! (Handout provided.)
Tues, 28 Feb - Funtastic Fellatio (7.30p.m. - 9.30p.m.)
Only for ladies - Give him orgasms he will never forget! Learn techniques, positions, and physiology for intensified orgasms while going down on him. Taught using online videos and carrots (yes, you read that right, carrots!), this two-hour fun workshop will teach you all there is to know about giving your man the best blow job. Handout provided. Click here for a review. Click here for testimonials. Conducted 40 times as of September 2011, this workshop was previously titled ‘Fabulous Fellatio’.
You will learn:
How to name the different parts of the male penis
Why men love receiving a blow job; why women resist giving one
The eight ways men orgasm
The mental mindset when it comes to giving a blowjob
Basics when it comes to giving a blow job
The different sexual positions
Twenty different blow job techniques from simple to advanced!
What is your relationship with yor vulva? Have you ever looked "down there"? Sign up for our Genital Drawing workshop and be part of our Down There exhibition! A fun video is below.
Description: Dr Vajayjay will show all you enterprising doctors out there how to succeed in the business of medicine by Privatizing Those Privates!
A spoof training video to problematize the growing industry of ***cosmetogynecology***. Made in support of the New View Campaign - SEX FOR YOUR PLEASURE, OR THEIR PROFIT? - http://signon.org/sign/pleasure-not-profits?source=c.em.cp&r_by=570673
As the only sexologist in Singapore, my work is incredibly isolating. I have joined several virtual communities for sexologists including those on LinkedIn, Facebook, and Yahoo, as well as the listserv managed by American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists (AASECT).
I wonder if you have a community of likeminded people supporting you in the work that you do. Whilst they are not your birth-family, you can still feel close to them, hence the term “spiritual family.”
In his book, Rich Brother, Rich Sister, Robert Kiyosaki suggested that you ask these four questions to find your spiritual family:
1) What am I willing to give up my life to? The moment you begin to find your answers, you will begin to find your spiritual family.
2) The second step involves a series of questions:
• If money were no object, would I continue to work at my job?
• If money were no object, would I work at my job for free?
• If the answers are “No” to the first two questions, then what would you work at forever and for free?
• If you are not willing to work forever and for free, then the chances are you have not yet found your soul’s purpose for your life. If there is something else you would rather do, maybe you should do it.
3) The third set of questions revolves around relationships:
• Am I working with people I love as much as I love my biological family?
• Do I respect the people I am working with?
• Do I trust the people I work with to have my best interests at heart?
• Is the product or service of the company I work for a product or service I am proud to produce?
4) The fourth and most important step strengthens your spirit, and is the difference between success and failure, and that is to work for free. When you give your gift to a higher purpose it strengthens your spirit. The more you give, the more blessings will come your way.
Needless to say, sexology is my higher calling. I do this work because this is what I am meant to be doing. I would do this work even if money was an issue, and I would do it forever. I already do it for free on some occasions. There is a dire need for real, meaningful, and positive conversations about sex and sexuality in Asia.
So do you have your spiritual family? What would it take for you to find yours?
Dr Martha Lee is Founder and Clinical Sexologist of Eros Coaching in Singapore. She is a certified sexuality educator with AASECT (American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists), as well as certified sexologist with ACS (American College of Sexologists). She holds a Doctorate in Human Sexuality from Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality as well as certificates in practical counselling, life coaching and sex therapy. She is available to provide sexuality and intimacy coaching for individuals and couples, conduct sexual education workshops and speak at public events in Asia. For more, visit www.eroscoaching.com.
"Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it" - Jalal ad-Din Rumi
"That (the above quote) pretty much summed up my experience at the Conscious Connecting workshop. Through the practices and sharing within the group, I had the chance to observe and reflect on my habitual and instinctive reactions towards giving and receiving love. The session started with a "no/yes" movement exercise for us to come back into the moment and feel into our bodies. How many of us are familiar with how a no or yes answer feels deep within us? Of course it helped (in a way) that I was paired with total strangers. Authentic consent also came into play; but if I were honest with myself, there were moments where I didn't say "no" even though I felt like rejecting. I left the session with a greater awareness of my body, and thoughts and reactions towards love. Once in a while, it's good to reconnect with yourself and others."
- Lim Seow Yuin, Feb 2012
Find out more about the workshop Conscious Connectinghere.
Have you heard of the saying, “Speech is Silver, Silence is Golden?” This phrase can be traced back to early Egyptiansand it essentially means that while speaking is good, saying nothing is better. Discretion can be worth more than even eloquent words.
Have you ever felt glad, relieved even, to get away from someone because the person would not stop talking, and worse yet, about themselves?
Have you wished the person sitting behind you on the bus or standing behind you on the train would stop talking into their phone or to the person next to them at the top of their voice?
Then there is the gym. Have you ever wondered just why personal trainers need to be yelling when their client is just next to them, at the expense of everybody else there?
When I go to the gym, there is loud techno-thumping music blasting in the speakers overhead, so loud that in order to override it, I would have to turn on my preferred music on my headset to its full volume. On the rare occasions when I am the first at the gym, I ask them to kindly turn the music down, only to have to repeat this request at my next visit.
Silence is how we hear ourselves think. It is how we can listen to that still, small voice, also known as our inner voice, speak to us. Silence is how we catch our breath, process our thoughts, decipher our wishes and make decisions. Sometimes, I hear of people who are afraid of silence, afraid of being by themselves, afraid of facing the truth.
Apparently it is so difficult to find silence that it is now a commodity. According to the New York Post in 2010, you can experience a weeklong silent retreat at Shreyas Spa in Bangalore, India for US$3,000. A bargain compared to the US$21,000 that the Canadian Health Ministry shelled out for 15 bureaucrats to spend two days and one night in the countryside not speaking to each one another.
Living in a highly urbanised and densely populated place is no joke. There is no respite, no escape, and no room to breathe other than into the armpit of your fellow commuter.
Find pockets of time, go within and be silent. In recent weeks, I have learned that there are other ways to meditate besides sitting cross-legged and being still.
• Movement meditation. Check out 5 Rhythms brought to you by Dance Yourself Free.
• Writing meditation. Do morning pages and weekly reflections with the book, The Artist’s Way at Work.
You may question just how standing, moving or writing can be meditative. If you do it for the sake of doing it, then it is just an activity or busyness. If however you engage in an activity and are completely absorbed by it, could care less what others think and are truly enthralled with the here and now, that is meditation. That is when your problems disappear. For that brief moment, the world fades away, and you exist. Be silent and know it is ok to be still.
Dr Martha Lee is Founder and Clinical Sexologist of Eros Coaching in Singapore. She is a certified sexuality educator with AASECT (American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists), as well as certified sexologist with ACS (American College of Sexologists). She holds a Doctorate in Human Sexuality from Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality as well as certificates in practical counselling, life coaching and sex therapy. She is available to provide sexuality and intimacy coaching for individuals and couples, conduct sexual education workshops and speak at public events in Asia. For more, visit www.eroscoaching.com.
Other than sex ed from The Silent Scream, what else is there to learn about sex and sexuality?
I was probably 11 or 12 when I watched a video called “The Silent Scream” in primary school (or grade school in the U.S.). It is a documentary video which depicts the abortion process via ultrasound and shows an abortion taking place in the uterus. During the abortion process, the presenter dramatically paused the video as the 11-week fetus opens its mouth in the uterus – in what appeared to be an outcry of pain and discomfort – and went, “There, there, there is the silent scream!”
Satisfied that we are considerably traumatized, we were each left with a silver collar pin moulded after the feet of an 11-week fetus to remind us of the consequences if we were to have sex. From what I hear, generations of students have watched this video in Singapore. This singular video was my only form of sex-ed I can remember in primary school.
Here are the nine more things that I wish I learned in sex-ed as a teenager. You can read part 1 and part 2 here.
All these things your doctor or parents told you is all is true: watch your diet, exercise regularly, drink less, stop smoking, and take time to pamper yourself. Your ability to enjoy your sexuality is in direct correlation with your general health.
You do not end up with a shorter life, go blind, or develop hairy palms from performing masturbation. There are lots of nice alternative names for masturbation such as self-love, self-pleasuring, or even solo- sex which you can choose to use.
If you are unable to achieve an orgasm by yourself, you are less likely to be able to have an orgasm with a partner. Understanding your own body through masturbation is a great way to express your sexuality, to relieve stress, and to sleep better.
Most women (70 – 80%) can only attain an orgasm through clitoral stimulation. Only about 10 to 20% of women can reach an orgasm through vaginal penetration. An orgasm is an orgasm is an orgasm. There is no good or bad way to receive an orgasm, so just enjoy!
Because men experience the start of their orgasm and ejaculation contractions within a fraction of a second, it is often misunderstood (even by the media) as one and the same thing. In reality, men can orgasm without ejaculating, and men can also ejaculate without an orgasm.
Yes, there is such a thing called the female G-spot. There is also the male G-spot, and E-spot (where arousal happens as the ear is being cleaned!).
It is also true that some women can ejaculate and it is not pee though it may contain traces of urine. Instead of being stuck on locating “spots,” what is most important is that you are experiencing pleasure and enjoying yourself during sex.
While the mass media uses sexualized images of men and women to sell their products and services, the people depicted do not represent how the rest of the population actually looks. Rather than be fixated with weight, focus on health. Instead of getting caught up with looking like a model, concern yourself with the beauty you hold within and let it shin through. It will serve you well.
While porn always ends with the male orgasm, sex in real life does not need to end that way. The goal of sex should not be the orgasm. Either or both or neither one of you might “cum” in any given sexual encounter and that is alright! While watching porn, it is important to remember that they are actors portraying what most people fantasize about, not what actually happens in most people’s sex lives. That aside, we can be sexually stimulatedby a wide variety of music, art, pictures, movies, stories, etc. and it is not at all weird if you do too.
Dr Martha Lee is Founder and Clinical Sexologist of Eros Coaching in Singapore. She is a certified sexuality educator with AASECT (American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists), as well as certified sexologist with ACS (American College of Sexologists). She holds a Doctorate in Human Sexuality from Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality as well as certificates in practical counselling, life coaching and sex therapy. She is available to provide sexuality and intimacy coaching for individuals and couples, conduct sexual education workshops and speak at public events in Asia and beyond. For more, visit www.ErosCoaching.com.
Rape culture in post-colonial Asia. When violence against women is considered inevitable, apathy on the subject increases, and responsibility for the crime is taken away from the offender. Discourse then revolves around the victim.
Making HIV responses work for women. The health of women and girls across the world, particularly from HIV transmissions, is threatened by a long list of inequalities simply because they are females.
Disclaimer: Some of these media reports may portray sex and sexuality in a negative light. I am merely re-reporting them and may not always agree with the reports or opinions expressed.
Dr. Martha Lee is Founder and Clinical Sexologist of Eros Coaching in Singapore. She is a certified sexologist with American College of Sexologists with a Doctorate in Human Sexuality from Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality. She is available to provide sexuality and intimacy coaching for individuals and couples, conduct sexual education workshops and speak at public events in Asia. For more, visit www.eroscoaching.com.
As part of our Febulove campaign in February, these are our remaining workshops which you can sign up for:
Fri 17 Feb - Conscious Connecting (7.30p.m. - 9.30p.m.)
For singles/ couples - Do you have difficulty asking for what you want in bed? Do you have a desire to be a better lover for your partner? How exactly can you connect intimately with your partner? All these questions and more will be answered in this clothes-on workshop that explores the four different types of touch: Giving, Receiving, Absorbing, and Allowing. Understanding and practicing these distinctions will change the way you experience touch and shift your personal, and even professional, life fundamentally. So allow yourself and your man to connect in a more intimate level and feel the change in your relationship. (You are strongly encouraged to attend this workshop with your partner or friend.)
Tues 21 Feb - Sizzling Strokes (7.30p.m. - 9.30p.m.)
Only for the ladies - Previously titled “Different Strokes” and conducted seventy times since September 2011, this proven workshop on tips and techniques for giving guys a happy ending with your hands will definitely have your man sizzling. Taught using online videos, a few fun sex toys, and even an easy-to-follow handout with line drawing, “Sizzling Strokes” will have your man wanting you more than ever, even Her World (Feb 2010) magazine agrees! Testimonials here.
You will learn:
Sexual Response Cycle – Stages Our Body Goes Through During Sex
Male anatomy – Knowing his body
The importance of breathing
How to do a genital erotic massage -More than 22 different techniques!
Fri 24 Feb - Pucker Up: Kissing (7.30p.m. - 9.30p.m.)
For singles/ couples:
“What is a kiss? Why this, as some approve: the sure, sweet cement, glue and lime of love.” – Robert Herrick
Ever heard of the Candy Kiss, Upside-Down Kiss, French Kiss, Earlobe Kiss, or Nip Kiss? You will once you join the workshop that turns KISSING into an art that you can master! All you need is the willingness to explore the possibilities and you will definitely find yourself enjoying new, fun, and flirty kisses with your partner. Learning these creative kisses will definitely make your partner want to pucker up! (Handout provided.)
Tues, 28 Feb - Funtastic Fellatio (7.30p.m. - 9.30p.m.)
Only for ladies - Give him orgasms he will never forget! Learn techniques, positions, and physiology for intensified orgasms while going down on him. Taught using online videos and carrots (yes, you read that right, carrots!), this two-hour fun workshop will teach you all there is to know about giving your man the best blow job. Handout provided. Click here for a review. Click here for testimonials. Conducted 40 times as of September 2011, this workshop was previously titled ‘Fabulous Fellatio’.
You will learn:
How to name the different parts of the male penis
Why men love receiving a blow job; why women resist giving one
The eight ways men orgasm
The mental mindset when it comes to giving a blowjob
Basics when it comes to giving a blow job
The different sexual positions
Twenty different blow job techniques from simple to advanced!
LYRICS: Like a flower waiting to bloom Like a lightbulb in a dark room I'm just sitting here waiting for you To come home and turn me on
Like the desert waiting for the rain Like a school kid waiting for the spring I'm just sitting here waiting for you To come on home and turn me on
My poor heart, it's been so dark since you been gone After all, you're the one who turns me off You're the only one who can turn me back on
My hi-fi's waiting for a new tune The glass is waiting for some fresh ice cubes I'm just sitting here waiting for you To come on home and turn me on Turn me on
View sexuality in a positive perspective! Know yourself, know your body, and know your partner. In this one-day event, couples will learn sexual skills that will enable them to connect more authentically with each other. A perfect venue for both men and women to discover and embrace conscious sexuality through learning and discussing all things intimate, helping couples express themselves more successfully to each other and a mature audience.
You will learn:
Conscious sexuality and learn how it can be practiced
To differentiate between female and male sexual anatomy through visual aids
Intimacy skills that can be immediately applied to the bedroom
Ejaculatory control for men through breathing
Date: Sat 17 March 2012
Time: 9 a.m. to 5 p.m.
Venue: HDB Hub, Punggol Room
Fee: $150 per person; $280 for a couple
SYNOPSIS
9:30a.m. - Releasing your Fears around Sexuality (Heiko and Selina)
The doorway to experiencing great sexual fulfillment and intimacy is often blocked in varying degrees by deep subconscious "negative" or limiting beliefs, programing from society and pain or fear from past experiences.
This session will explore what some of these subconscious "blocks" are and how to release and let them go in order that you can allow your sexual energies to flow easily and naturally to enhance your pleasure, deepen your intimacy with your partner and increase your creativity and magnetism.
10.50a.m. - Conscious sexuality for the 21’st century (Uma and Deej)
Many ancient traditions such as Tantra from India and Taoism from China teach us about sexuality. Many of these teachings have been adapted in order for them to be practical for us in our busy modern world.
In this talk we will introduce Conscious Sexuality as a modern, practical way for accessing pleasure, healing and growth. We will explore what Conscious Sexuality is and how you could benefit from it.
11.30a.m. - Accessing More Pleasure (Uma)
Through the use of simple everyday actions we can expand sensation in our body and experience pleasure like never before. By brining awareness to what we do with our bodies and our minds we can connect with ourselves and those around us on a much deeper level. Not only does this increase the pleasure you experience, leading to a healthier and more relaxed life, but it allows us to be more productive. This talk will explore simple skills for achieving this.
1.30p.m. - Sexual Anatomy for Men and Female (Dr. Martha Lee)
Now that you have learned how to begin to return to sensation, it is time to be familiar with the differet parts of our sexual anatomy before going any further! You do need to know where is what before we can have any decent conversation about what to do! This talks covers not just the sexual anatomy of men but also of females. Where is the G spot? What is the frenulum? How do you navigate the nether regions of a female with some oh-so-yummy pleasure strokes? For the first time, vulva puppets (great stuff!) will be featured in one of Dr Martha Lee's talks!
2.30p.m. - Intimacy Skills For Men (Deej)
As men we want to be close to whoever we feel attracted to, but we are often unsure of how best to go about this. This talk will examine the fears that isolate us, and how to move beyond this. We will look at how we can approach people with confidence, awareness and presence, in order to get more of what we want in life.
3.50p.m. - Ejaculation choice for men (Uma and Deej)
Ejaculation for men is often the peak of their pleasure. Many men that we speak to feel that they reach their peak too soon – both for their own enjoyment and for their partner’s. In this talk we will explore the different possibilities that are available to men when it comes to orgasm and ejaculation. We will also share with you some techniques that will allow you to have more control and choice, allowing your body to experience more pleasure.
Heiko and Selina Niedermeyer are International Releasers who have successfully facilitated individuals and groups around the world since 1999, to release emotional and mental negative programing and belief systems about themselves that cause issues in their relationships, sexuality, careers, businesses, finances, physical health and other areas of their lives.
Deej Juventin
Deej runs Sex Coaching and Therapy in Brisbane, Australia, and runs workshops throughout the region. Drawing, from somatic sex education, Tantra, Taoism and sexual shamanism, his work focuses on supporting people to overcome distractions and obstacles to access more pleasure in their lives, and to learn skills to connect more fully with their physical, emotional, and erotic selves, to the people in their lives, and to the environments that support us. Although he works with people of all genders and sexualities, he is an expert on men’s sexual health issues, and regularly facilitates at men’s events in Australia. He teaches the Certificate in Sexological Bodywork training in Australia, and is the President of the Somatic Sex Educators’ Association of Australasia.
Uma Furman
Based in Australia, Uma Furman is an experienced Tantrica, and a certified sexological bodyworker who works with individuals, couples, and groups. She provides training in sacred sexual practices like Tantra Taoism and sexual shamanism. She is passionate about educating people from all walks of life to experience a deeper connection with themselves, their partners and their environment. She is a faculty member on the Sexological bodywork Australian training program and a member of the Somatic Sex Educators’ Association of Australasia.
Date: Sat 17 March 2012
Time: 9 a.m. to 5 p.m.
Venue: HDB Hub, Punggol Room (Nearest MRT: Toa Payoh)
What would you do if this was your child? What would you like happen?
Speaker: Anne Tamar-Mattis
Description: An estimated 1 in 2,000 babies is born with a Difference of Sex Development (DSD or intersex condition). Currently, there is much controversy regarding the best course of treatment for those children with DSD born with atypical genitals. However, little attention has gone to the process of decision-making, or to other important questions such as sterilization of children with DSD or protecting privacy rights.
This workshop begins with an overview of the biology of DSD and the basic legal and ethical principles of surrogate consent in pediatric cases. We will then discuss some key legal and ethical questions.
Participants will become familiar with key legal and ethical issues in the treatment of children with DSDs, with special attention to unsettled questions of law and uncertain medical outcomes. Participants will deepen their understanding of the ethics and law of surrogate decision-making for children. Participants will be able to identify potential situations in the treatment of children with DSDs where additional legal or ethical consultation may be indicated.
A porn star goes to Bollywood. If she indeed attains stardom, she would be doing something that is almost unheard of, not only in Bollywood but in Hollywood as well, except by a handful of fringe crossovers.
Disclaimer: Some of these media reports may portray sex and sexuality in a negative light. I am merely re-reporting them and may not always agree with the reports or opinions expressed.
Dr. Martha Lee is Founder and Clinical Sexologist of Eros Coaching in Singapore. She is a certified sexologist with American College of Sexologists with a Doctorate in Human Sexuality from Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality. She is available to provide sexuality and intimacy coaching for individuals and couples, conduct sexual education workshops and speak at public events in Asia. For more, visit www.eroscoaching.com.
The only sexuality education I received in secondary school (or high school in the U.S.) was in the form of annual school talks presented by pharmaceutical companies promoting sanitary pads or tampons (depending where they were from). The boys got to first jeer at us, as they went out to play in the sun. We, the young ladies, had the burden of listening to instruction on menstruation and the need to clean up after ourselves.
Here are another nine things that I wish I learned in sex-ed as a teenager. You can read part 1 here.
There is a difference between being coerced to doing something and being curious and open-minded for your own sake. Heard of the saying, “Fake it till you make it?” Sometimes all it takes to get used to something new is doing more of it so that you get used to it. For instance, it may include getting used to the look, smell, and taste of his penis and even semen.
Rather than let sex happen to you, begin thinking about what you need for sex to happen. What would make sex good for you? What would make it better? The first thing is to know what it is you want.
You have the right to ask about the sexual history of your partner, now whether what they tell you is true or not is another matter. Always, always, always choose safer sex practices. Take charge; purchase and carry protection with you.
Worry less about pleasing your partner, and more about doing the right thing by you--things that after doing you can live to face yourself in the mirror the next day. Remember, it is your body, your life, and your future that is on the line. Before you can have any kind of meaningful relationship, first recognize the magnificence within you and love yourself.
Sexual communication is communication. You probably already have the skills it takes to ask for what you need and want sexually. Because your desires and preferences may change over time, sexual communication must be an ever-evolving process. You deserve the best sex possible; communicate.
Sex involves the expression of physical love. It is about the joy of life as well as the intimacy of connectedness. The intimacy that these couples must have has to do with the ability to share one’s fears, dreams, and pains. Without honesty, patience, and the ability to be vulnerable, it is not possible to let your partner know who you really are and what you really want.
Masturbation is sex. Foreplay is sex. Oral sex is sex. Anal sex is sex. Penis in the vagina is sex. The lack of the male or female orgasm is still sex. To a sexologist, there are different forms of sexual expressions and once one enters the sexual response cycle, it counts as sex! And there is nothing wrong with the word sex either!
There is a difference between fantasy and reality. In our fantasies, there are no repercussions, no harm, or pain physically felt or experienced. Fantasies are stimulating because they would probably not happen in real life. This does not mean fantasies cannot become reality, nor does it mean that all fantasies should be played out in life. What is more important is that you can separate between fantasy and reality, and are able to decide what you wish to retain as a fantasy, and what you would like to have happen down the road and under what circumstances.
Did you expect these items to be on part 2? Part 1 is here. Tune in for part 3 next week!
Dr Martha Lee is Founder and Clinical Sexologist of Eros Coaching in Singapore. She is a certified sexuality educator with AASECT (American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists), as well as certified sexologist with ACS (American College of Sexologists). She holds a Doctorate in Human Sexuality from Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality as well as certificates in practical counselling, life coaching and sex therapy. She is available to provide sexuality and intimacy coaching for individuals and couples, conduct sexual education workshops and speak at public events in Asia and beyond. For more, visit www.ErosCoaching.com.
"Martha is someone whom you can share your darkest bedroom secrets with. She is always approachable, encouraging and positive. Martha has her own way of making any task less daunting and hence more achievable.
Taking the first step is always not easy and may be difficult for some. I was glad that I took the first step to meet and discuss with Martha my condition at a one-to-one session. Eros Coaching has helped me to overcome vaginismus – a condition that indirectly drains away my self-esteem, confidence and womanhood. I was determined to establish and find back the lost intimacy with my spouse.
Through the wide range of programs and activities offered by Eros Coaching, as well as the comprehensive discussions with Martha, I gained more confidence in overcoming the condition. I am very thankful to know Martha and will always be grateful to her. I strongly recommend Eros Coaching to anyone." - Anonymoys Lady, February 2012
Testimonials from my other clients who had vaginismus: Here, here, here and here.
An event that approaches a couple's sexual relationship in a whole new light. From knowing and appreciating the yin and the yang of each other's sexual anatomies and overcoming obstacles to sexual fulfillment to learning skills to improve your adventures in the bedroom, this one-day encounter aims to impart sexual information, knowledge, and skills for couples to be able to more confidently and authentically connect with each other sexually. All the sessions promise not only enhancement of sexual pleasure deepening of intimate relationships.
1. Differentiate and appreciate the differences between the female and male sexual anatomy 2. Identify different sexual difficulties and what you can do about them 3. Practice conscious connecting through touch 4. Sexual skills you can apply immediately in the bedroom!
Talk 1: Nuts and bolts: About male and female sexual anatomy (9:30a.m. -- 10:30a.m.) Talk 2: Sexual difficulties and what you can do about them (11:30a.m. -- 12:30p.m.) Talk 3: Conscious connecting through touch (1:30p.m. -- 2:30p.m.) Talk 4: Sexual techniques: How to make love for a lifetime (3p.m. -- 4p.m.)
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Founder of Eros Coaching, Martha Lee is a sexuality and intimacy coach. She is compassionate, practical, honest, interactive and solution-focused. Martha incorporates a blend of conventional and alternative approaches and draws upon a variety of styles and techniques to support each client as they work to resolve both current problems and long-standing patterns.
This workshop aims to acknowledge the physical changes that happen to a man as he goes through old age symptoms likeandropause, and to educate him on what he can do if he is experiencing sexual dysfunctional problems. Participants will also learn breathing techniques and exercises to stay sexually healthy.
This workshop seeks to educate senior couples on the importance of communicating honestly with each other as their bodies go through physiological changes. How exactly can seniors connect intimately with their partners? This clothes-on workshop explores the four different types of touch: Giving, Receiving, Absorbing, Allowing. Understanding and practising these distinctions will change the way seniors experience touch and shift their personal relationships fundamentally.
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