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Success

Success is speaking words of praise,
In cheering other people's ways.
In doing just the best you can,
With every task and every plan.

It's silence when your speech would hurt,
Politeness when your neighbor's curt.
It's deafness when the scandal flows,
And sympathy with others' woes.

It's loyalty when duty calls,
It's courage when disaster falls.
It's patience when the hours are long,
It's found in laughter and in song.

It's in the silent time of prayer,
In happiness and in despair.
In all of life and nothing less,
We find the thing we call success.

Unknown

Media: How to run your own Self-Retreat

This article first appeared on YourTango where I am the only expert in Asia.

Run your own self-retreat and rediscover what you need in order to feel fulfilled.

Have you ever gone on a holiday then wished you could go on another one? Perhaps you returned exhausted because you had organized too much to do on your holiday? Alternatively, you were too occupied accommodating the requests of those you travelled with, or with accompanying them? If so, how about going on a self-retreat, where you can focus on yourself?

A self-retreat, as opposed to a group retreat, is obviously one where you go by yourself. You take the time you need to re-group and reconnect with yourself, so as to re-discover what you do or do not need in order to feel fulfilled. When you take the time to engage in some self-caring and self-nurturing, more self-awareness of your life may emerge. Also, self-reflection may lead to some self-discovery, not to mention self-development, as well as increased self-confidence, self-esteem and ultimately self-love. Therefore, the good that can come from spending time with yourself can be self-renewal as well as self-transformation.

Just how do you run a self-retreat?

1. Make it a priority. Although it takes a few days to really calm the mind, set an amount of time that feels right for you and which you can manage. It may be a few hours, while the kids are at school, or it may be between 1 to 10 days. Alternate between short and long retreats and see what works best for you. Remember you are worth it and when you feel good, good things will happen to you and those around you.

2. Schedule your dates. Let people know you are going to be unavailable whether by phone, email or in person. Give it the same priority as if you were going away on a retreat and had paid a lot of money towards it. You may decide to be unreachable except for emergencies, and will only check your messages on a certain day or every day at a certain time. Let people know by recording this information on your voicemail or set up an email auto-responder.

3. Set your Intention. The clearer you are of why you are doing the retreat, the closer you will reach your desired outcome. It might be to cleanse or detox; to rest and relax for mental relaxation, or for spiritual growth, vision building, emotional healing, physical wellbeing, or even for personal development.

4. Prepare your space. You have to consider where to do the retreat. If you do it at home, you may wish to put away anything that you do not be need and would, therefore, clutter up your space. You might turn off, unplug and even cover up or put away the TV, phone and computer. The point is to free yourself from distractions, interruptions, obligations and expectations.

5. Get yourself ready. Prepare what you need. For instance, buy groceries, so you do not need to make a run for the supermarket or any other unnecessary trips. Stock up on easy-to-prepare meals or cook some the evening before starting the retreat. This way you are not spending time cooking. Also try eating smaller servings than usual and eat more regularly if you need to, so that you are not digesting a big meal, which is more likely to make you tired and sleepy.

6. Be in the now. When you are all alone, you have to motivate yourself to keep to the original intentions, which you set for your retreat. By pre-arranging a schedule, there is less room for distractions. Without any people around there's no talking and your mind will become calmer. Every action such as eating, washing up and showering should be done mindfully.

Your self-retreat is supposed to be one where you give relaxed attention to your every movement, feeling and thought. Maintain a nice and easy pace and avoid all distractions and annoyances. When you are relaxed, everything will flow more naturally. The time you spend on creating a transformative environment for yourself will be worth it in the end. You will be better nurtured, supported, inspired and will come away feeling rejuvenated in body, mind and spirit.

Dr Martha Lee is Founder and Clinical Sexologist of Eros Coaching in Singapore. She is a certified sexuality educator with AASECT (American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists), as well as certified sexologist with ACS (American College of Sexologists). She holds a Doctorate in Human Sexuality from Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality as well as certificates in practical counselling, life coaching and sex therapy. She is available to provide sexuality and intimacy coaching for individuals and couples, conduct sexual education workshops and speak at public events in Asia and beyond. For more, visit www.ErosCoaching.com.

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Media: Chinese New Year - it is all about intent

This article first appeared on PublicHouse.sg.

We are most definitely now into the year of the Water Dragon! How was your Chinese New Year? Did you use the occasion to catch up with family and friends, take a well-deserved break, or “escape” the contrived pleasantries by travelling overseas?

After reading the piece, "My Secret Grief. Over 35, Single and Childless", on Huffington post, I posted this on my Facebook wall:

“Martha is urging for greater sensitivity towards your fellow humans this Chinese New Year. Don't be one of those well-meaning people asking others if they are in a relationship, going to get married, have kids, have more kids, blah blah. It really doesn't affect the quality of your life, but it may affect theirs!”

 

I received several “likes” to that post with these assenting comments:

“Great point: a friend was just sharing how utterly relieved she was to be 'excused' from CNY visiting by parents. She's over 40 and unmarried and hates those armor piercing rounds coated with good intent”.- Male

“Never fails to irritate me for the past 4 yrs before I had my kid... I hope they'll spare me this yr since i've just given birth... wont be surprised if they ask when I’m gonna have more... aaarrrggghhh”.- Female

“Yes, those annoying questions and smart remarks”,- Male

“They ask it for their amusement; I don't think it's even ’well-meaning’". – Male

Let’s not forget how 14-year-old Amos Yee sparked off a storm of online criticism after uploading a video that mocks the upcoming festive season, what he calls "a joke". Watch it for yourself and decide. His disdain seems obvious to me, and I don’t blame him. I often thought Chinese New Year was passé and a burdensome chore the younger generation had to endure. That was until a few things happened this year.

I was reading this book, Sacred Ceremony by Steven D. Farmer. It highlighted the difference between ritual and ceremony. In it, Farmer attributes his friend Jade Wahoo’oo Grigori in describing ritual as “something that we do in order to call upon or beseech the forces of creation to act on our behalf. Ceremony is the inspired expression of our dance in creation. Even in ritual there are certainly those times when in the performance of the person is inspired, and it shows through because all of a sudden it has that glow or quality, and so it’s actually broached into the ceremonial at that time.”

I interpret this to mean that the difference between ritual (just going through the motions) and ceremony (which invokes specialness) is the intent! That’s not all:

“Rituals certainly serve a purpose, and while most are performed with sincere intention, the substance and meaning is often lost both to the practitioner and the adherents. They risk becoming habitual routines stemming from a sense of obligation and dogged commitment, rather than a heartfelt, embodied sense of spiritual presence. All sacred rituals started out as ceremony, and some are faint echoes of the original ceremonies from which they stem.”

It dawned on me: How many of us give hongbaos (or red packets) with resentment rather than that of being able to bestow blessings on the younger? And do the recipients of these hongbaos honor and receive such blessings fully? What of us dragging our feet when doing house visiting, completely unaware of the privilege in being invited in the first place?

Farmer tells us that it is not about trying to follow meticulous and detailed instructions, but really about executing with the intuiting of spiritual direction and guidance. The power of Spirit is invited without demand or expectation, and results will be achieved in alignment with the will of Spirit.

The meaning of Chinese New Year seems to be lost to us.

This year, I had no reunion dinner. My mother is not well. She has stage four breast cancer and has another two out of 12 chemotherapy sessions to go. Her immune system has been severely weakened. We visited a relative’s place as a family without her as she was not up to it.

I have been taking things for granted, from the labour of love behind preparing that one dinner (“too expensive outside”, “all the restaurants will be booked”), the ability to give or receive hongbaos (depending on whether you are married, separated or divorced), to house-visiting and witnessing how much my nieces and nephews have grown from last year, even if it was all pleasantries. They are still family, the extended family I wish I had taken more time to know.

I also think about those who have no roof over their heads, no family, no meal to look forward to. So how was your Chinese New Year? Remember, it is all about intent.

Dr Martha Lee is Founder and Clinical Sexologist of Eros Coaching in Singapore. She is a certified sexuality educator with AASECT (American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists), as well as certified sexologist with ACS (American College of Sexologists). She holds a Doctorate in Human Sexuality from Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality as well as certificates in practical counselling, life coaching and sex therapy. She is available to provide sexuality and intimacy coaching for individuals and couples, conduct sexual education workshops and speak at public events in Asia. For more, visit www.eroscoaching.com.

Sex News in Asia - 1/23/12

This article first appeared on Good Vibrations Singapore.

Asia

• Asia awaits lunar year 'dragon baby' boom

Singapore

• On Child Prostitution, Human Trafficking and Poverty


• Forum letters on sex ed in Singapore




• Urging people to save themselves for marriage. A response is here.


• Why we shouldn't start sexuality education earlier




• A poster featuring a naughty message has scandalised some people from the Convent of the Holy Infant Jesus (CHIJ) schools in Singapore.


• Singapore Fringe Festival courts controversy


• Rong Sheng says his wife Kai Lynn shed a whopping 28kg so she could look her best on her wedding day


• Man jailed, caned for molesting woman


• Man fined for sending topless photos of ex-girlfriend to her family


• Ex-teacher jailed 8 years for sex with 14-year-old student


• All Singapore maternity hospitals to encourage breastfeeding


• Man jailed for sex without disclosing HIV status

Malaysia

• Anwar under fire for suggesting review of gay laws


• Man blackmailed after cyber sex session


• Rape ordeal for 24-year-old trainee


• Siblings disown mum after she cheated 8 men


• Cops: Porn not cause of crash


• The Court of Appeal has upheld the High Court's decision to award Information, Commun¬ications and Culture Minister Datuk Seri Dr Rais Yatim RM300,000 (S$123,420) in his defamation suit against blogger Amizudin Ahmat for implying that the minister was guilty of raping his Indonesian maid.

Korea

• North Korean defector jailed for raping fellow refugee

China

• Blogger-activist Liumang Yan turns prostitute for a day to speak up for sex workers


• Cross-dressing garbage collector wins national sympathy after fire


• Foreigner's search for lost love burns up Weibo


• Dragon Year spells nightmare for Hong Kong mums


• Taiwan's President Ma Ying-jeou on Thursday urged the island's couples to have more babies during the upcoming Year of the Dragon to help boost birth rates.


• China boyfriend for rent

Thailand

• The Appeals Court yesterday upheld a 37-year prison sentence for a Dutch man convicted of sexually molesting a 12-year-old boy.

Japan

• Shukan Post says that in days past one porn actress per 400 female high school and university students was a standard assumption — a figure that represents roughly one woman per graduating class.

Nepal

• Taboos Undercut Nepal's Marital Rape Law

Vietnam

• Vietnam's first film to openly feature love and intimacy between gay men is helping to change attitudes in a country where homosexuality is often seen either as a disease or a source of ridicule.


• Can an LGBT Film Help Change Attitudes About Homosexuality in Vietnam?


• Have You Found Pleasure From E-Spot Stimulation? It has to do with the ear

India

• A minister in India's Orissa state has quit after being accused of "shielding" those involved in an alleged gangrape of a low-caste dalit girl.

View last’s week Sex News in Asia here.

Disclaimer: Some of these media reports may portray sex and sexuality in a negative light. I am merely re-reporting them and may not always agree with the reports or opinions expressed.

Dr. Martha Lee is Founder and Clinical Sexologist of Eros Coaching in Singapore. She is a certified sexologist with American College of Sexologists with a Doctorate in Human Sexuality from Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality. She is available to provide sexuality and intimacy coaching for individuals and couples, conduct sexual education workshops and speak at public events in Asia. For more, visit www.eroscoaching.com.

Why Men don't talk to Women

A fun video on why men don't talk to women. What do you think? Any truth in this?

Why Men and Women Can't be friends

This is just a video for fun. It attempts to answer the age old question, Young Independent Filmmakers Jesse Budd and Patrick Romero set out to simply prove a point.

Video: End Discrimination

Whats goin on..



Jonah is a young guy that happens to be gay - and has been harassed at school. He's scared and sad. But he teaches us a lot in this video.

Jonah's post on YouTube:

To all my friends and supporters,
I made this video 4 months ago just before school was about to start. I was 13. It was a very emotionally dark time in my life. I made the video at 4:00am in the morning; I hadn't been sleeping at night for a long time, too many things going on in my head. I was dreading going back to school and I had not come out to my family yet. Only my closest friends knew. I didn't know how to say what I needed to say. All I could think about were all the bad things that had been happening at school last year, every year for that matter. I just couldn't bare to go through that anymore. I was done being fake happy, pretending hateful words didn't hurt, done hiding it from my family.

So this video was made for my friends that had moved on to High School who were worried for me, to say to them that I was going to take a stand, and to the haters at my middle school that I'm not going anywhere. I am who I am. I posted the video here and told people were to find it. That was it.

My friends were moved by the video and thought I did something important. I was encouraged to upload it to my Facebook page so more people could see it. Maybe it could help someone else going through the same thing. So I linked it Dec. 1st. My Parents saw it for the first time Dec, 2nd.

Then..... all this happened.

I never expected in a million years that it would have such a wonderful impact on so many people. I am truly humbled and truly thankful for all the love, encouragement and support from people all over the world. It's been incredibly overwhelming. I don't know what to say. Thank you so, so much!

Lastly, yes you have seen me happy in a couple short videos replies I posted; I would think that would be a good thing , and yes I do have friends, my High School friends, and I have made friends because when I came out they realized that they had hurt me and that they fealt sorry. The video is real, and true.

In the last few months everything eventually came out in the open, I felt a huge weight off my shoulders; I'm happy, I'm excepted for who I am, I'm more confident and feel stronger every day.

Thank you all, Love and peace to all who are hurting.
Jonah Mowry

Media: Sexology is my calling. What’s yours?

This piece first appeared on PublicHouse.sg

I facilitated a session which defined sex, sexuality and intimacy during SlutTalk, a fringe event under SlutWalk Singapore. It was the inspiration for an earlier piece on publichouse.sg with the same title here. After my session, I thought I was off-work, resumed my civilian status, and was easing into my seat. An undergraduate lady sitting next to me began small talk by first remarking that I look nothing like my namecard/ website/ media pictures. She next asked me if my work was difficult.

Take this in the context of two of my previous pieces, also on publichouse.sg – The Tribulations of a Sexologist Part 1 and Part 2, and you may recognise why I was completely lost for words.

How can I even begin to talk about how incredibly difficult my work was? There are days when I think only a fool would continue doing the work I do. So why do I still do it? Why would I want to deter her, possibly an aspiring sexologist (looking at me with those star-crossed eyes), to not pursue this career if she had the drive, desire and passion for it? How does one even know if another is right for this career? I certainly had no desire to dampen her ambitions or right to judge her suitability to be the next Dr Ruth of Singapore.

Finally I said, “Well, I won’t say it is easy. I do this work because there is nothing else I rather be doing.”

About a year ago, I remember a fellow sexologist asking in a forum if we should encourage people to pursue sexology as a career.

I responded: “The work that we do is incredibly difficult and often thankless. To me, it is a calling and I do it because I cannot see myself doing anything else. I cannot speak for other people.”

Indeed, why do we do what we do? How do we know what is the purpose of our lives? What is the reason you are here – or your higher calling? I like to zoom into the “Seventh Law: The Law of ‘Dharma’” or “Purpose in Life” in Deepak Chopra’s The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success.

In it, Chopra wrote:

“Everyone has a purpose in life… a unique gift or special talent to give to others. And when we blend this unique talent with service to others, we experience the ecstasy and exultation of our own spirit, which is the ultimate goal of all goals.”

According to Chopra: there are three components to this law, each of us is here:

1) To discover our true Self, to find out on our own that our true Self is spiritual, that essentially we are spiritual beings that have taken manifestation in physical form.

2) To express our unique talents. This means that there’s one thing you can do, and one way of doing it, that is better than anyone else on this entire planet.

3) To provide service to humanity – to serve your fellow human beings and to ask yourself the questions, “How can I help? How can I help all those that I come into contact with?”

The Law of Dharma happens when you combine the ability to express your unique talent with service to humanity.

People choose to see what they want to see: the media publicity must mean I am famous, that I am doing well, and that I am rich. Right… Being a sexologist allows me to be communicator, advocate, coach, teacher and healer all in one. It is a sum of everything I have studied in school, learned in life, and experienced as a human, woman, daughter and wife. My work is pure heart work, and is also hard work(!). It is the product of my desire to leave a legacy of people who are fearlessly living and embracing life fully behind.

Therefore, I am hard pressed to encourage or persuade anyone to be a sexologist. I am me, and you are you. Our journeys might well be different or similar. Either way, it is all good. It is more important that you find what makes your soul sing everyday, as being a sexologist does for me.

I leave you with this quote by Henry David Thoreau:

"The price of anything is the amount of life you exchange for it."

Dr Martha Lee is Founder and Clinical Sexologist of Eros Coaching in Singapore. She is a certified sexuality educator with AASECT (American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists), as well as certified sexologist with ACS (American College of Sexologists). She holds a Doctorate in Human Sexuality from the Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality as well as certificates in practical counselling, life coaching and sex therapy. She is available to provide sexuality and intimacy coaching for individuals and couples, conduct sexual education workshops and speak at public events in Asia. For more, visit www.eroscoaching.com.

The Vagina Police

Who is the Vagina Police? View the video to find out more and see if you know anybody who is guilty of being one!

Purchase E-Book: 28 Days of Eros FAQ

The idea of this first e-book 28 Days of Eros came as I developed daily lessons as part of my online project celebrating love, romance and eros in the month of February called Febulove in 2011. Now in its second year, I am pleased to move onto frequently asked questions.

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4 What are some tips on the ways a guy can impress a girl with the perfect Valentine’s Day dinner date?
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13 Can one tell the size of a man’s penis by measuring certain other body parts?
14 How should I best stimulate her breasts and nipples?
15 She spent the night. What do you do the next morning?
16 I heard men lose protein after sex. Do guys need to take a protein supplement to replenish this loss?
17 I think I have premature ejaculation. What should I do?
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21 I am as good as dead if I cannot have an erection. What should I do when that happens?
22 How important is sexual intimacy in a relationship?
23 We have two kids and have no time for sex. What should we do?
24 I am gaining weight due to working so much. Now I feel sexually insecure. What should I do?
25 Does the G-spot exist for women, and if yes, where?
26 I heard that men also have a G-spot. Is it true?
27 Can females ejaculate during sex?
28 Why do men usually just orgasm and ejaculate once?
29 Can men enjoy multiple orgasms? How?

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What is the Yin and Yang conference?

An event that approaches a couple's sexual relationship in a whole new light. From knowing and appreciating the yin and the yang of each other's sexual anatomies and overcoming obstacles to sexual fulfillment to learning skills to improve your adventures in the bedroom, this one-day encounter aims to impart sexual information, knowledge, and skills for couples to be able to more confidently and authentically connect with each other sexually. All the sessions promise not only enhancement of sexual pleasure deepening of intimate relationships.

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You will learn to:
1. Differentiate and appreciate the differences between the female and male sexual anatomy
2. Identify different sexual difficulties and what you can do about them
3. Practice conscious connecting through touch
4. Sexual skills you can apply immediately in the bedroom!

Talk 1: Nuts and bolts: About male and female sexual anatomy (9:30a.m. -- 10:30a.m.)
Talk 2: Sexual difficulties and what you can do about them (11:30a.m. -- 12:30p.m.)
Talk 3: Conscious connecting through touch (1:30p.m. -- 2:30p.m.)
Talk 4: Sexual techniques: How to make love for a lifetime (3p.m. -- 4p.m.)

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About the speaker:

Founder of Eros Coaching, Dr. Martha Lee is the only Clinical Sexologist in Singapore who has a doctorate in human sexuality. Often cited in the local media, Dr. Lee is the appointed sex expert for Men's Health Singapore, Men's Health Malaysia, Durex Singapore Facebook page as well as Durex Malaysia Facebook page. She has a weekly column with PublicHouse.sg and blogs for Good Vibrations Magazine. She was recognised as one of 'Top 50 Inspiring Women Under 40′ by Her World in July 2010, and one of 'Top 100 Inspiring Women' by CozyCot in March 2011.

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New Workshop: Ecstatic Breath

Every 1^st Wed, 10:30–11:30 a.m.: 7 March; 2 May, 6 June.

Every 3^rd Thurs, 7:30–8:30 p.m.: 15 March; 17 May; 7 June (1^st Thurs as travelling).
* No classes in April and August.

Venue: The Substation Dance Studio

Course Fee: $20 per class

Admission: Register by emailing register@eroscoaching.com or calling 6100-0851

This is an OpenHouse course

Your breath is your most intimate companion. Health, vitality, abundance, and love are within your reach! Rapid-fire multitasking and work stress can cause your breathing to become shallow, bringing less oxygen to your brain, increased blood pressure, and a hyped-up nervous system. To center yourself on the intimate moment at hand and invigorate your mind, you just need to breathe. Taking conscious breathing breaks is one of the easiest things you can do to shift your experience and make it more fulfilling. Learn how you can live in ecstatic bliss every day, feeling more positive, supported by life, and enjoying each breath you take.

"The more relaxed our body remains, the more our sexual motions reflect the vast consciousness that is the source of our being. The more fully our breath circulates through our body, the more our love can unfold through every gyration and moan."

– David Deida

About the Instructor

Founder of Eros Coaching, Dr. Martha Lee is a Clinical Sexologist who conducts sexuality and intimacy coaching, runs sexuality education workshops, and speaks at public education events. Her work includes reconnecting and becoming more comfortable with one’s body. Often cited in the local media, Dr. Lee was recognised as one of the ‘Top 50 Inspiring Women Under 40′ by Her World in July 2010, and one of the ‘Top 100 Inspiring Women’ by CozyCot in March 2011.

Admission: Register by emailing register@eroscoaching.com or calling 6100-0851

Testimonials - Sexual Attitude Restructuring

"I have to say I knew not what to expect when I first attended SAR. I knew I was going to experience discomfort; but having known Martha for some time, I knew she made a wonderful facilitator; and I was correct. Martha made sure that the whole situation was as comfortable and guided as possible. SAR made me more open on my attitude towards sex. The various type of sex, the various preferences, and how all of such can actually be a calming, freeing experience." - Male Participant

"I first attended SAR with a fair amount of resistance to the notion that it will be uncomfortable and weird to be viewing material with a group of strangers. However as the sessions proceeded, I found myself transformed through the process and the openness in discussion and sharing our views and perspectives definitely helped to challenge the various pre-conceived notions or pre-judgements that we have about certain things. Having gone through it, I do think that the process helps in broadening our perspectives and becoming more tolerant individuals capable of appreciating people for who they are and to see beyond stereotypes. Credit must go to Dr. Martha Lee for administering the process and for creating an environment where frank, honest discussion is possible." - Male participant

For details of the next Sexual Attitude Restructuring workshop, click here!

 

Sex News in Asia - 1/16/12

This post first appeared on Good Vibrations Magazine.

Singapore

• Okamoto’s TipOff iPhone app aims to get Singaporeans fired up about naughty sex


• Coming out message from Irene, a MTF post-op transsexual


• Modelling agency's 'topless' calendar reveals mindset change?


• Ministry of Education responds directly to my forum letter about a more abstinence-based sexuality education programme in schools


• For the record, I did not say in my forum letter that the the revised sex ed programme is just about abstinence. I was talking about what a true sex ed programme should be about and the importance of not having an abstinence only programme. My original forum letter is here


• Man with fetish for young boys jailed 18 years


• Family-friendly Singapore? To raise awareness of the government funds available to childcare operators setting up shop in workplaces, the Ministry of Community Development, Youth and Sports (MCYS) will launch an information kit in May.


• MCYS should include more specifically address sexual abuse of children too, and say so. Thanks.


• Woman jailed and fined for overstaying and offering sex

Malaysia

• Seven-year-old forced to perform oral sex by trio


• Malaysian gay activists challenge festival ban in court. Another report is here.


• The Kuala Lumpur High Court acquits Anwar Ibrahim of sodomising his aide Mohd Saiful Bukhari Azlan


• Anwar freed of sodomy charges


• Man dies of sex stimulant overdose

China

• When “slut shaming” happens to celebrities: Rose Chan having fun with 2 hot guys...


• Sex selective abortions in Taiwan


• Chinese condoms: A Chinese start-up with XL ambitions

Nepal

• Group in Nepal Takes Pride in Kidnapping Brides

The Philippines

• Ramgen girlfriend candid about sex video

India

• Outrage over 'human zoo' on Indian islands

Japan

• Japanese Department Store May Want to Look Up the Word ‘Fucking’


• And the clean up after

View last’s week Sex News in Asia here.

Disclaimer: Some of these media reports may portray sex and sexuality in a negative light. I am merely re-reporting them and may not always agree with the reports or opinions expressed.

Dr. Martha Lee is Founder and Clinical Sexologist of Eros Coaching in Singapore. She is a certified sexologist with American College of Sexologists with a Doctorate in Human Sexuality from Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality. She is available to provide sexuality and intimacy coaching for individuals and couples, conduct sexual education workshops and speak at public events in Asia. For more, visit www.eroscoaching.com.

Media: The Power of Play

This article first appeared on PublicHouse.sg.

I have a question to ask you. Amidst the hustle and bustle of your busy work and personal lives, when was the last time you played? Close your eyes and try recalling some of the happiest moments in your life: What might they be? Whether this memory is of you as a child or as an adult, chances are, they involved some sort of play.

Children usually play when left to their own devices. Children do not necessarily need toys to have a good time. They might come up with their own games, make their own toys, or rely on their fantasy to be transported to different time and places through history and even beyond using their imagination. There is no agenda other than fun for the sake of fun itself.

Somewhere along the way, we were told we had bigger, better, and more important things to do with our lives, like studying and working. We became busy, so we could get somewhere, achieve something, and be someone important someday. We became stressed, anxious, worried, depressed, and exhausted all the time and we forgot how to play.

Your analytical mind will probably be thinking that all this talk of play seems childish, and unprofessional. You might think playing is a waste of your time and energy; after all, you are a very busy person. More than ever, I believe that play is not superficial, but a necessity. Play inspires us to view the world from a different perspective, take risks, experiment without fear of repercussions, and apply new solutions to ongoing problems. In his TED talk, Dr Stuart Brown made a scientific case about precisely this: that play is anything but frivolous and not just for kids.

When we play, we are completely engrossed, engaged and often get locked into some kind of time warp. We become spontaneous and live in the moment. We laugh, often at ourselves, we reconnect with the child within us, we expand our thinking, we tap into our creativity, we feel free, and we feel alive again. Life becomes magical and fun once more. Do we not all want these?

You may ask, what is the connection between play and sex? Just as play is all about learning experientially, sex is really about learning about oneself and others through connecting experientially. Play is all about experience and one can bring that approach into all areas of your life including sex.

• Tickling is play.

• Massaging is play.

• A tug of war is play.

• Dressing up is play.

• Role-playing is play.

• Strip teases are play.

• Erotic board games are play.

• Incorporating sex toys is play.

• Using blindfolds is play.

• Making out is play.

How about we call it all play?

I encourage you to rethink what play is and treat it with the seriousness it deserves.

So, when was the last time you gave yourself permission to play, whether in or outside of the bedroom? Go on and rediscover the joys of having a childlike perspective. Recall how it was like when life was full of endless possibilities from a child's point of view. Try a little – explore, experiment, wonder, dream, dare a little – and have infinite fun! As you play today, the boundaries of your mind may open to embrace myriad new thoughts, ideas, and emotions yet. Enjoy!

Dr Martha Lee is Founder and Clinical Sexologist of Eros Coaching in Singapore. She is a certified sexuality educator with AASECT (American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists), as well as certified sexologist with ACS (American College of Sexologists). She holds a Doctorate in Human Sexuality from Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality as well as certificates in practical counselling, life coaching and sex therapy. She is available to provide sexuality and intimacy coaching for individuals and couples, conduct sexual education workshops and speak at public events in Asia. For more, visit www.eroscoaching.com.

Media: Oral Sex is not always safe sex

This article first appeared on CozyCot.

I run a blow job workshop for ladies – 41 times to date, actually. During the workshop Funtastic Fellatio, whenever I state that oral sex is not safe sex, I inadvertently get raised eyebrows or questioning looks from the female participants.

A few honest ones would admit that they never knew about this fact. They would insist on condom use during sexual penetration, but would also 'go down' on the guy without a condom – assuming that one only catches sexual transmitted infections (STIs) through penetrative sex – perhaps due to the widespread advocacy of condom usage.

I should not be surprised, because until I received extensive training towards becoming a sexologist, I actually knew very little about safer sex practices other than the need to put on a condom during sex. I assumed I should have known better and just mistakenly thought other women were smarter and wiser.

Our ignorance may result in dire repercussions to our health. A study released by Ohio State University last month stated that over the last 20 years, there has been a surge in cases of oral cancer linked directly to the human papillomavirus, or HPV, by about 58 per cent. A similar study conducted by Johns Hopkins University in 2007 also found HPV to be a stronger risk factor for throat cancer than tobacco or alcohol use. In case you didn't know, there are several STIs which have no cure, besides HIV (Human immunodeficiency virus) – HPV and herpes being just two of them.

As modern-day women, we should know about safer sex practices and the extent of sexual risk we are exposing ourselves to, but we do not. Therefore, I want to highlight the different types of sexual behaviour one engages in and the associated risk factors.

Guidelines for Risk Management

Safe	Safe (if the condom is used correctly and consistently)
Massage Hugging Mutual masturbation (touching your own genitals) Dry kissing Voyeurism, exhibitionism Phone/ computer sex Sex toys (provided condoms are used when toys are shared) Bathing together	Anal intercourse with condom Vaginal intercourse with condom Fisting with glove Oral sex with a condom/latex barrier Rimming/ analingus with latex barrier Finger fucking vaginally or anally with latex glove or cot Watersports (urine on unbroken skin)
Possibly Unsafe	Unsafe
Cunnilingus without a barrier Finger fucking without a barrier Fellatio without a condom Sharing sex toys with cleaning or changing condoms in between uses Fisting without a glove Rimming/ analingus without a latex barrier	Anal intercourse without condom Vaginal intercourse without condom Blood contact Unprotected cunnilingus during menstruation

Source: Winks, C. & Semans, A. (2020) The Good Vibrations Guide to Sex, 3^rd edition, Cleis Press Inc, USA, p. 293.

I am not suggesting that you prefer one box of sexual activity – for instance only choosing to engage in safe sexual activity – over another for the rest of your life. I'm not encouraging you to go out and do anything you do not wish to. Instead, I am encouraging you to recognise the risks and learn how to manage those risks.

Taking care of yourself means making informed, and hopefully better, decisions for you – because you have to put yourself first. This is your body, your life, your future we are talking about. And remember, oral sex is not always safe sex, and only the proper use of condoms when giving oral sex is safer.

4 Simple steps for correct use of a condom:

1. Get it up, check the expiry date
2. Pinch air out, roll condom down
3. Lube condom up, slide it in
4. Use condom once, toss condom out

Credits on condom instructions to: Action for AIDS (Singapore)

Dr Martha Lee is Founder and Clinical Sexologist of Eros Coaching in Singapore. She is a certified sexuality educator with AASECT (American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists), as well as certified sexologist with ACS (American College of Sexologists). She holds a Doctorate in Human Sexuality from Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality as well as certificates in practical counselling, life coaching and sex therapy. She is available to provide sexuality and intimacy coaching for individuals and couples, conduct sexual education workshops and speak at public events in Asia. For more, visit www.eroscoaching.com.

Febulove Workshops

As part of our Febulove campaign in February, these are our workshops which you can sign up for:

Fri 3 Feb - Pillow Talk: Erotic talk (7.30p.m. - 9.30p.m.)



For the ladies - This is a NEW course intended to spice up your conversations! Erotic talk can improve communication and intimacy, deepening you and your partner’s connection. It supplies variety and excitement to a stagnant relationship! It opens up a world of new erotic possibilities for couples by expressing each other’s needs and wants in all possible ways and then working (and playing) together to achieve them. It is the art of imagination and fantasy, tapping into the most important sex organ in the body: the brain.

You will learn:

• Benefits of erotic talk (Why you should do it)


• Differentiate between male and female fantasies, and how to better tailor your erotic messages!


• How to engage in sensual talk through your sight, sound, smell, taste, and touch


• How to get your partner to talk erotically

To register, click here.

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Tues 7 Feb - Best of Eros (7:30p.m. – 8:30p.m)



For the ladies - For the first time and by popular request! Release your inhibitions and ask your questions! This express, straight-to-the-point course for the busy woman who just needs to cut through the chase, and only wants to know the best of hand and blow job techniques just in time for Valentine’s Day!

You will learn:

• Why men love receiving a blow job


• Best hand and blow job techniques (More than 10!)


• To perfect those skills through practising on a carrot!

To register, click here.

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Fri 17 Feb - Conscious Connecting (7.30p.m. - 9.30p.m.)



For singles/ couples - Do you have difficulty asking for what you want in bed? Do you have a desire to be a better lover for your partner? How exactly can you connect intimately with your partner? All these questions and more will be answered in this clothes-on workshop that explores the four different types of touch: Giving, Receiving, Absorbing, and Allowing. Understanding and practicing these distinctions will change the way you experience touch and shift your personal, and even professional, life fundamentally. So allow yourself and your man to connect in a more intimate level and feel the change in your relationship. (You are strongly encouraged to attend this workshop with your partner or friend.)

To register, click here.

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Tues 21 Feb - Sizzling Strokes (7.30p.m. - 9.30p.m.)



Only for the ladies - Previously titled “Different Strokes” and conducted seventy times since September 2011, this proven workshop on tips and techniques for giving guys a happy ending with your hands will definitely have your man sizzling. Taught using online videos, a few fun sex toys, and even an easy-to-follow handout with line drawing, “Sizzling Strokes” will have your man wanting you more than ever, even Her World (Feb 2010) magazine agrees! Testimonials here.

You will learn:

• Sexual Response Cycle – Stages Our Body Goes Through During Sex


• Male anatomy – Knowing his body


• The importance of breathing


• How to do a genital erotic massage -More than 22 different techniques!


• What to use during the massage

To register, click here.

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Fri 24 Feb - Pucker Up: Kissing (7.30p.m. - 9.30p.m.)

For singles/ couples:

“What is a kiss? Why this, as some approve: the sure, sweet cement, glue and lime of love.” – Robert Herrick

Ever heard of the Candy Kiss, Upside-Down Kiss, French Kiss, Earlobe Kiss, or Nip Kiss? You will once you join the workshop that turns KISSING into an art that you can master! All you need is the willingness to explore the possibilities and you will definitely find yourself enjoying new, fun, and flirty kisses with your partner. Learning these creative kisses will definitely make your partner want to pucker up! (Handout provided.)

You will learn:

• Kissing Trivia


• Do’s and Don’ts to Kissing


• Kissing Techniques

To register, click here.

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Tues, 28 Feb - Funtastic Fellatio (7.30p.m. - 9.30p.m.)



Only for ladies - Give him orgasms he will never forget! Learn techniques, positions, and physiology for intensified orgasms while going down on him. Taught using online videos and carrots (yes, you read that right, carrots!), this two-hour fun workshop will teach you all there is to know about giving your man the best blow job. Handout provided. Click here for a review. Click here for testimonials. Conducted 40 times as of September 2011, this workshop was previously titled ‘Fabulous Fellatio’.

You will learn:

• How to name the different parts of the male penis


• Why men love receiving a blow job; why women resist giving one


• The eight ways men orgasm


• The mental mindset when it comes to giving a blowjob


• Basics when it comes to giving a blow job


• The different sexual positions


• Twenty different blow job techniques from simple to advanced!

To register, click here.

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About the trainer:

Founder of Eros Coaching, Dr. Martha Lee is the only Clinical Sexologist in Singapore who has a doctorate in human sexuality. Often cited in the local media, Dr. Lee is the appointed sex expert for Men’s Health Singapore, Men’s Health Malaysia, Durex Singapore Facebook page as well as Durex Malaysia Facebook page. She has a weekly column with PublicHouse.sg and blogs for Good Vibrations Magazine. She was recognised as one of ‘Top 50 Inspiring Women Under 40′ by Her World in July 2010, and one of ‘Top 100 Inspiring Women’ by CozyCot in March 2011. For her full profile, click here.

Fee per workshop:

• S$60 per person (Usual S$75 per person);


• S$50 per person if you sign up and pay with a partner/ friend;


• S$50 per person if you sign up for two or more workshops!

Venue for all workshops: Wasabi Yoga - 54C South Bridge Road, Singapore 058685

Directions:

MRT Station: Clarke Quay or Raffles Place
Bus Numbers: 51, 63, 80, 124, 145, 166, 174, 174e, 197 (South Bridge Rd-boat quay stop)
2, 12, 33, 51, 54, 63, 80, 124, 145, 147, 166, 197 (New Bridge Rd & Eu Tong Sen St stop)

Payment to be made before each workshop via bank transfer or paypal.

Also, to find out about our Yin and Yang Conference on Sat 11 February 2012, click here!

Media: A Touchy Subject - Causes of Intimacy Problems

This article first appeared in the November 2011 issue of Health & Beauty magazine published in Malaysia. Click image to enlarge/ read.

Dr Martha Lee is Founder and Clinical Sexologist of Eros Coaching in Singapore. She is a certified sexuality educator with AASECT (American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists), as well as certified sexologist with ACS (American College of Sexologists). She holds a Doctorate in Human Sexuality from Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality as well as certificates in practical counselling, life coaching and sex therapy. She is available to provide sexuality and intimacy coaching for individuals and couples, conduct sexual education workshops and speak at public events in Asia. For more, visit www.eroscoaching.com.

What is Febulove?

Febulove is a month-long campaign on love, eros and romance by Eros Coaching. Eros Coaching is a sexuality and intimacy coaching company in Singapore. Subscribers receive exculsive promotions and e-lessons everyday for the month of February. So join now on www.FebuLove.com.

FebuLove.com is a project by ErosCoaching.com.
Video production by http://seopromovideo.com

Down There Exhibition

Eros Coaching and SlutWalk Singapore are in the midst of curating a multi-disciplinary exhibition exploring the artist's relationship with the human genitalia, with a focus on the female vulva. Slated for late-March, Down There exhibition is a platform wherein we attempt to deconstruct the image of The Perfect Genitalia, which has been omnipresent with the ascendance of cosmetic surgery (and its profits), marketing (and its effectiveness), and the visibility of mainstream porn. Is there a "perfect vulva"? A "perfect penis"? Who owns it? What about when it comes to intersex and gender-diverse people? With this exhibition, we hope to challenge societal and cultural constructs around human genitalia, as well as to create healthy dialogue about the issues. We are looking for established and emerging artists, and we are welcoming all mediums (sculpture, video, illustration, painting, etc) to be a part of this exhibition.

To generate awareness and interest for this exhibition, we are organising a series of events for the public:

Screening of the Movie Petals
Thurs 9 Feb, 7:30p.m. - 9:30p.m.

Petals - Journey into Self Discovery is a remarkable video documentary that both examines and questions the many unspoken myths about the appearance and nature of women's sexual organs. The essence of a woman's sexuality -- her vulva - has been a taboo subject of depiction by cultures locked into fear of our basic physical nature. These deep-seated beliefs directly affect sexual self-esteem. The movie records the reactions of sex educators, women's health professionals, art critics, female activists, as well as the men/women in the street as they confront the physical mystery of womanhood.

Photographer Nick Karras has composed images with an unusual visual and emotional sensitively. The documentary follows his intimate journey as he produces a book of artful photographs. His subtle black and white photographs discover the delicate beauty in the infinite variety of female genitals, inspiring a profound sense of wonder and awe. Quite different from conventional sexual expectations, the film is continually revealing. Unforgettable women became his guides and teachers - Betty Dodson, the legendary leader pioneer of women's sexual liberation; Linda Savage, Ph.D., a published cultural anthropologist; Ina Laughing Winds, a teacher of shamanic sexual traditions; Sarah Mundy, a young woman with a website dedicated to the glories of the vagina, and many other dynamic women. They joined him in confronting both the current fears and timeless beauty found in a woman's most basic sexual nature.

Fee: S$10 per person

Venue: Eros Coaching

No. 5 Purvis Street, #02-05, Talib Court, Singapore 188584

Nearest MRT: City Hall or Bugis

Parking: National Library, Raffles City Shopping Centre or Bugis Junction

Vulva Drawing workshop
Thurs 1 March, 7:30p.m. - 9:30p.m. OR
Fri 9 March, 7:30p.m. - 9:30p.m.

It is important that as women we celebrate the diversity of vulvas – different shapes, sizes, colours – because we are all beautiful, whole and complete the way we are not what the others say. We are meeting to discuss our relationship with our sexual anatomy and to draw our vulvas. Do not worry too much if you do not understand your anatomy as I will run through before the drawing session.

What we will cover:
• Short Introduction of the Female/ Male Anatomy
• Drawing of anatomy (can be based on memory/ photograph you bring/ abstract)
• Non-judgmental Sharing

Before you can do a good anatomy drawing, you can do a self examination with a mirror in private. This can be very confrontational because as women, we are taught from a young age not to touch ‘down there’ and our private parts being ‘dirty’. As adults, we need to reconcile with past negative messages and recognise we are beautiful, whole and complete before we can truly have a wonderful sexual life. Anatomy drawing is a way of celebrating our bodies, womanhood and being women.

I like to encourage you to come to this session with an open-mind, with the knowledge that the other participants will be women just like yourself desiring to acknowledge their sexual beauty and with the confidence that this will be a safe and supportive group.

Each session is facilitated by clinical sexologist, Dr. Martha Lee (link to my profile, please). Participants who wish to contribute those digital photographs and/or their artistic work anonymously towards a future art exhibition may do so. Testimonials from those who have attended previous workshops are here (http://www.eroscoaching.com/2010/06/testimonials-sexual-self-discovery-for-women/)

Fee: S$25 per person

Venue: Eros Coaching

No. 5 Purvis Street, #02-05, Talib Court, Singapore 188584

Nearest MRT: City Hall or Bugis

Parking: National Library, Raffles City Shopping Centre or Bugis Junction

Down There Exhibition

3rd/ 4th week March
Venue to be announced

For enquiries, please email register@eroscoaching.com.

Pleasure Salon Singapore

The original Pleasure Salon was founded in New York as a way to allow for a sex-positive community to materialize. Chapters in Chicago and Melbourne have since followed suit.

Pleasure Salon Singapore intends to do the same. We want to pave the ground for a sex-positive network and create an open exchange of ideas about sex, in a society where talking about sex is non-existent and/or taboo. We want to encourage healthy discussions surrounding sex and sexuality, in a safe space while embracing the principles of respect, tolerance, acceptance, openness, and non-judgmental support for one another.

Everyone is welcome. There is no dress code. Together we can exchange passions, thoughts, ideas, feelings, experiences, knowledge, information, creative expression, art and anything else that happens to inspire, engage or educate around the theme of sexuality.

Pleasure Salon is brought to you by Eros Coaching and SlutWalk Singapore.

Thurs 2 Feb evening

Thurs 8 March evening

Thurs 12 April evening

Thurs 10 May evening

Thurs 14 Juneevening

Thurs 12 Julyevening

Thurs 16 Aug evening (postpone one week as National Day)

Thurs 13 Sept evening

Thurs 11 Oct evening

Thurs 8 Nov evening

Thurs 13 Dec evening

Venue: To be announced

Fee: To be determined

You can make sure you never miss an event announcement by registering for our email newsletter here!

extraordinaire instrument de musique

Just some music to brighten your day today. When was the last time you listened or watched something for pure enjoyment?

Tues 28 Feb - Funtastic Fellatio

Only for ladies – Give him orgasms he will never forget! Learn techniques, positions, and physiology for intensified orgasms while going down on him. Taught using online videos and carrots (yes, you read that right, carrots!), this two-hour fun workshop will teach you all there is to know about giving your man the best blow job. Handout provided. Click here for a review. Click here for testimonials. Conducted 40 times as of September 2011, this workshop was previously titled ‘Fabulous Fellatio’.

You will learn:

• How to name the different parts of the male penis


• Why men love receiving a blow job; why women resist giving one


• The eight ways men orgasm


• The mental mindset when it comes to giving a blowjob


• Basics when it comes to giving a blow job


• The different sexual positions


• Twenty different blow job techniques from simple to advanced!

Date: Tues 28 Feb 2012

Time: 7:30p.m. – 9:30p.m.

Venue for workshop: Wasabi Yoga – 54C South Bridge Road, Singapore 058685

Directions:

MRT Station: Clarke Quay or Raffles Place Bus Numbers: 51, 63, 80, 124, 145, 166, 174, 174e, 197 (South Bridge Rd-boat quay stop) 2, 12, 33, 51, 54, 63, 80, 124, 145, 147, 166, 197 (New Bridge Rd & Eu Tong Sen St stop)

Fee per workshop:

• S$60 per person (Usual S$75 per person);


• S$50 per person if you sign up and pay with a partner/ friend;


• S$50 per person if you sign up for two or more workshops!

About the trainer:

Founder of Eros Coaching, Dr. Martha Lee is the only Clinical Sexologist in Singapore who has a doctorate in human sexuality. Often cited in the local media, Dr. Lee is the appointed sex expert for Men’s Health Singapore, Men’s Health Malaysia, Durex Singapore Facebook page as well as Durex Malaysia Facebook page. She has a weekly column with PublicHouse.sg and blogs for Good Vibrations Magazine. She was recognised as one of ‘Top 50 Inspiring Women Under 40′ by Her World in July 2010, and one of ‘Top 100 Inspiring Women’ by CozyCot in March 2011. For her full profile, click here.

For the other Febulove workshops, click here!

Also, to find out about our Yin and Yang Conference on Sat 11 February 2012, click here!

Fri 17 Feb - Conscious Connecting

For singles/ couples - Do you have difficulty asking for what you want in bed? Do you have a desire to be a better lover for your partner? How exactly can you connect intimately with your partner? All these questions and more will be answered in this clothes-on workshop that explores the four different types of touch: Giving, Receiving, Absorbing, and Allowing. Understanding and practicing these distinctions will change the way you experience touch and shift your personal, and even professional, life fundamentally. So allow yourself and your man to connect in a more intimate level and feel the change in your relationship. (You are strongly encouraged to attend this workshop with your partner or friend.)

Date: Fri 17 Feb 2012

Time: 7:30p.m. – 9:30p.m.

Venue for workshop: Wasabi Yoga – 54C South Bridge Road, Singapore 058685

Directions:

MRT Station: Clarke Quay or Raffles Place Bus Numbers: 51, 63, 80, 124, 145, 166, 174, 174e, 197 (South Bridge Rd-boat quay stop) 2, 12, 33, 51, 54, 63, 80, 124, 145, 147, 166, 197 (New Bridge Rd & Eu Tong Sen St stop)

Fee per workshop:

• S$60 per person (Usual S$75 per person);


• S$50 per person if you sign up and pay with a partner/ friend;


• S$50 per person if you sign up for two or more workshops!

About the trainer:

Founder of Eros Coaching, Dr. Martha Lee is the only Clinical Sexologist in Singapore who has a doctorate in human sexuality. Often cited in the local media, Dr. Lee is the appointed sex expert for Men’s Health Singapore, Men’s Health Malaysia, Durex Singapore Facebook page as well as Durex Malaysia Facebook page. She has a weekly column with PublicHouse.sg and blogs for Good Vibrations Magazine. She was recognised as one of ‘Top 50 Inspiring Women Under 40′ by Her World in July 2010, and one of ‘Top 100 Inspiring Women’ by CozyCot in March 2011. For her full profile, click here.

For the other Febulove workshops, click here!

Also, to find out about our Yin and Yang Conference on Sat 11 February 2012, click here!

Tues 7 Feb - Best Of Eros

For the ladies – For the first time and by popular request! Release your inhibitions and ask your questions! This express, straight-to-the-point course for the busy woman who just needs to cut through the chase, and only wants to know the best of hand and blow job techniques just in time for Valentine’s Day!

You will learn:

• Why men love receiving a blow job


• Best hand and blow job techniques (More than 10!)


• To perfect those skills through practising on a carrot!

Date: Tues 7 Feb 2012

Time: 7:30p.m. - 8:30p.m.

Venue for workshop: Wasabi Yoga - 54C South Bridge Road, Singapore 058685

Directions:

MRT Station: Clarke Quay or Raffles Place Bus Numbers: 51, 63, 80, 124, 145, 166, 174, 174e, 197 (South Bridge Rd-boat quay stop) 2, 12, 33, 51, 54, 63, 80, 124, 145, 147, 166, 197 (New Bridge Rd & Eu Tong Sen St stop)

Fee per workshop:

• S$60 per person (Usual S$75 per person);


• S$50 per person if you sign up and pay with a partner/ friend;


• S$50 per person if you sign up for two or more workshops!

About the trainer:

Founder of Eros Coaching, Dr. Martha Lee is the only Clinical Sexologist in Singapore who has a doctorate in human sexuality. Often cited in the local media, Dr. Lee is the appointed sex expert for Men’s Health Singapore, Men’s Health Malaysia, Durex Singapore Facebook page as well as Durex Malaysia Facebook page. She has a weekly column with PublicHouse.sg and blogs for Good Vibrations Magazine. She was recognised as one of ‘Top 50 Inspiring Women Under 40′ by Her World in July 2010, and one of ‘Top 100 Inspiring Women’ by CozyCot in March 2011. For her full profile, click here.

For the other Febulove workshops, click here!

Also, to find out about our Yin and Yang Conference on Sat 11 February 2012, click here!

Tues 21 Feb - Sizzling Strokes

Only for the ladies - Previously titled “Different Strokes” and conducted seventy times since September 2011, this proven workshop on tips and techniques for giving guys a happy ending with your hands will definitely have your man sizzling. Taught using online videos, a few fun sex toys, and even an easy-to-follow handout with line drawing, “Sizzling Strokes” will have your man wanting you more than ever, even Her World (Feb 2010) magazine agrees! Testimonials here.

You will learn:

• Sexual Response Cycle – Stages Our Body Goes Through During Sex


• Male anatomy – Knowing his body


• The importance of breathing


• How to do a genital erotic massage -More than 22 different techniques!


• What to use during the massage

Date: Fri 17 Feb 2012

Time: 7:30p.m. – 9:30p.m.

Venue for workshop: Wasabi Yoga – 54C South Bridge Road, Singapore 058685

Directions:

MRT Station: Clarke Quay or Raffles Place Bus Numbers: 51, 63, 80, 124, 145, 166, 174, 174e, 197 (South Bridge Rd-boat quay stop) 2, 12, 33, 51, 54, 63, 80, 124, 145, 147, 166, 197 (New Bridge Rd & Eu Tong Sen St stop)

Fee per workshop:

• S$60 per person (Usual S$75 per person);


• S$50 per person if you sign up and pay with a partner/ friend;


• S$50 per person if you sign up for two or more workshops!

About the trainer:

Founder of Eros Coaching, Dr. Martha Lee is the only Clinical Sexologist in Singapore who has a doctorate in human sexuality. Often cited in the local media, Dr. Lee is the appointed sex expert for Men’s Health Singapore, Men’s Health Malaysia, Durex Singapore Facebook page as well as Durex Malaysia Facebook page. She has a weekly column with PublicHouse.sg and blogs for Good Vibrations Magazine. She was recognised as one of ‘Top 50 Inspiring Women Under 40′ by Her World in July 2010, and one of ‘Top 100 Inspiring Women’ by CozyCot in March 2011. For her full profile, click here.

For the other Febulove workshops, click here!

Also, to find out about our Yin and Yang Conference on Sat 11 February 2012, click here!