Sex News in Asia - 10/24/11

This article first appeared on the Good Vibrations Magazine.

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• A global movement against sexual violence known as SlutWalk has spread from Toronto to Delhi to Johannesburg, and now is set to make its Southeast Asia debut in the notoriously socially restrictive city-state of Singapore. So what is SlutWalk?


• Investigations into Johor squatting incident not yet completed


• As part of its initiative to raise awareness of breast cancer, Tangs' has placed a specially designed pad in every bra in its store, printed with a message on the disease.


• AWARE hands out awards for gender equality. A seasoned politician, a family counsellor and a pair of young activists on Monday night became the first recipients of awards honouring them for their work in promoting gender equality. The awards were presented by the Association of Women for Action and Research (Aware). The nominations are here.


• TOC: Sylvia Lim on how policies impact fertility rate. Singapore’s total fertility rate (TFR) should concern us greatly if we are worried about preserving our culture and identity for future generations. I note that surprisingly little emphasis was placed on this in the PMO’s Addenda. In recent years, home prices have risen sharply. For couples who want children, one of the factors they consider in deciding when to have children and how many to have, is the affordability of housing.


• PublicHouse.sg brings the final segment of their three-part interview with Reverend Miak Siew. He is an openly gay, fully ordained pastor at Free Community Church.


• Sexy, savvy, sassy and hungry for hits. Celebrity blogger and model Peggy Heng said in an interview with The New Paper: "To heck with the critics, this is my blog, my personal space, so I post what I want. Life's a choice; leave it simple or spice it up. I prefer the latter and so I live each day like there is no tomorrow." She adds: "We're attention whores. We admit."


• Straits Times: 'School of romance' trains men in dating. Aura Dating Academy claims to be the first such school in Singapore. It offers a year-long course to train men in the art of dating and getting into a relationship.


• Fans of Japanese female idol group AKB48 are going crazy over an SBS bus. It's not just any bus, mind you -- the bus has a huge ad for the girl group's upcoming concert in Singapore in November.


• In his first speech on housing in Parliament, National Development Minister Khaw Boon Wan vowed to focus on making housing available to two groups of homebuyers within the next two years. He said that he will commit to help all newlywed first-timers earning below $10,000 per month to get their first HDB home as soon as possible, and help them "meet an important social objective of helping them to settle down and start their families."


• Transitioning.org: Financial reasons for men who stay unmarried in Singapore. Only 39.4 men were married compared to every 1, 000 unmarried males in year 2010. Our female counterparts also did not fare better as only 37.2 females were married compared to 1, 000 unmarried females.

Malaysia

• Women's groups have hit out at the Obedient Wives Club' for its “explicit sex book” which called on a Muslim husband to have joint sex with all his spouses.

Burma

• War rape reports continue unabated in Burma. On a cold January day in 2001, 18 year old Naang Yin (this name has been changed to protect her identity), daughter of two shopkeepers in the Shan State of Burma, went to a military camp set up by the Burmese troops to buy some basic provisions at a cheaper price for her parents’ shop. She returned home four days later. Imprisoned by eleven men of the Burmese army where she was gang-raped at the camp and told to stay quiet. This is just one of the testimonies of 173 incidents of rape and other forms of sexual violence that were committed by Burmese military troops in the Shan State from 1996 to 2001.

China

• Because local media in Lijin County in Shandong Province in eastern China refused to report on how a woman died during a forced, late-term abortion, a family member has published the story of the mother’s unnecessary death. This has drawn angry comments across China’s cyberspace.


• Police in China arrested a man 28 years after he was accused of hugging a woman against her will -- a serious charge at the time -- only to find he had married his "victim".


• China undergrad offers sex for new iPhone 4S

Hong Kong

• On Sunday, 4 December, 2011, the SlutWalk march will be marching from Causeway Bay to Wanchai.

Indonesia

• It’s official: Asian males are girlier than Western ones. In physical terms, guys from the east are smaller and less muscular.

India

• Defying the practice of arranged marriage in India can tear families apart, particularly when young people go outside their castes. The Supreme Court has sided with the young couples, calling the caste system a "curse on the nation."


• An estimated 100,000 people in India may have escaped HIV infection over five years, thanks to one of the world's biggest prevention programmes, an encouraging sign that targeting high-risk groups remains vital, a new study suggests.


• Census data released earlier this year revealed there are 914 girls for every 1,000 boys born - a sharp fall since 2001 when the ratio was 933 girls for every 1000 boys.


• Reuters: Indian wives fast, luxuriously, for husbands. Karva Chauth is a centuries-old tradition observed annually in north India, where women dress up and fast for the day to pray for their spouse's good health and success. While it is customary for women to apply henna on their hands, buy clothes and expect gifts from relatives, the new generation of fast-keepers, with money to spare, is exploring a range of pampering options. On the must-have list for the urban elite are botox, laser-hair reduction and chemical peel treatments at spas and beauty parlours offering Karva Chauth packages.

Korea

• Competition stiff for 'flying girls'. In Korea, cabin crew jobs are so esteemed that some are fearful to tell friends and family of their aspirations in case they are scoffed at for not being "good enough." Rewards for working for the world's best airline include free fully furnished accommodation, a tax-free monthly salary of $1,579 (S$1,992), medical and life insurance, and travel concessions.

Japan

• The war compensation issues regarding South Korea's "comfort women" have already been "legally resolved," Prime Minister Yoshihiko Noda said in an interview Monday on the eve of his trip to Seoul.

View last’s week Sex News in Asia here.

Disclaimer: Some of these media reports may portray sex and sexuality in a negative light. I am merely re-reporting them and may not always agree with the reports or opinions expressed.

Dr. Martha Lee is Founder and Clinical Sexologist of Eros Coaching in Singapore. She is a certified sexologist with American College of Sexologists with a Doctorate in Human Sexuality from Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality. She is available to provide sexuality and intimacy coaching for individuals and couples, conduct sexual education workshops and speak at public events in Asia. For more, visit www.eroscoaching.com.

Kissing: The Fun and Creative Way

This article first appeared on HowtoKiss.com.sg, a micro site belonging to Eros Coaching.

Have you ever wondered if there are varieties in kissing? Well, of course there are. All you need is the willingness to explore the possibilities and you will definitely find yourself enjoying new, fun, and flirty kisses with your partner.

Enjoy showing your affection to your partner by planting these creative kisses:

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  Candy Kiss – This kiss consists of passing a candy between each other’s mouth from time to time. Aside from candies, you can use mints or gums or anything that dissolves fast. Just make sure not to chew something that can make you choke.


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  Upside-Down Kiss – As portrayed in the movie Spider-Man, the upside down kiss is another fun way to flirt with your beau. To perform an upside-down kiss doesn’t mean that you literally reenact the movie scene, it can happen anywhere. It is easily done even if the other person is just lying down or sitting on a comfortable couch.


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  The French Kiss – Perhaps, French Kissing, which is otherwise known as “Tongue Kissing”, is the most common way to kiss. Adding tongue action definitely heightens the emotion. While it is popular, it takes years of practice to reach perfection with this kiss.


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  Earlobe Kiss – If you want to turn your lover on, the Earlobe Kiss will surely do the trick. However, you have to make sure that the ears are clean before performing this kiss. Otherwise, you’ll end up disgusted as you ingest your partner’s ear wax.


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  Nip Kissing – If French Kissing is a whole lot of fun, you should try Nip Kissing. A Nip Kiss involves biting your partner’s lips. Ensure that the biting is done gently, otherwise it will be painful and the passion is ruined.

Kissing is always pleasurable and it brings out the best and deepest sensation in a person. Don’t hesitate to research and try something new. Who knows, maybe you’ll turn out to be a great kisser after all.

This article first appeared on HowtoKiss.com.sg, a micro site belonging to Eros Coaching.

 

Dr. Martha Lee is Founder and Clinical Sexologist of Eros Coaching. She is a certified sexologist with a Doctorate in Human Sexuality. She provides sexuality and intimacy coaching for individuals and couples, conducts sexual education workshops and speaks at public events. For more, visit www.eroscoaching.com or email drmarthalee@eroscoaching.com.

 

Media: Masturbation is self-love

This article first appeared on PublicHouse.sg.

Mention the word “Masturbation” and what do you think of? While masturbation means different things to different people, it is one of the most misunderstood subjects in the world, as it is enshrined in mystery and secrecy because of the simple reason we speak so little about it. Masturbation may evoke massive levels of guilt and shame, as many of us were told from when we were young not to touch ourselves “down there”.

You might be scowling as you read this, but do you ever stop to recognise the tremendous good that can be found in this solo-sex activity we often perform quietly, quickly, and secretly? Also known as self-pleasuring, solo sex or self-love, masturbation is 100% safe sex, relieves depression and leads to a higher sense of self-esteem amongst many other benefits.

Females masturbate too, of course. However, I decided to include some of the most frequently asked questions on masturbation by men, and my answers:

1. Is masturbation bad for you?

All human beings are born sexual and there is no limit placed on the frequency of sexual encounters humans can engage in, including masturbation (which is a good thing). Masturbation is perfectly healthy and an important part of sexual health. Like all sex, masturbation is related to our physical, emotional, psychological, social, and even spiritual state. Be aware of your body – watch for signs of soreness or sensitivity, and slow down if needed. If your masturbation is causing you continued distress, pain, or feels compulsive, you might want to talk to a qualified sexologist.

2. Does frequent masturbation cause premature ejaculation?

For most men, their earliest sexual experiences are with masturbation, done secretly and quickly for fear of being found out. It is often believed that such early experience actually condition some men’s sexual response to a pattern of rapid ejaculation. In reality, masturbation is one of the best ways for men to learn about their bodies and develop confidence about their ejaculatory control in a pressure-free environment. Using lubricant, slowing down on the stroking action when you masturbate and letting yourself enjoy the sensations more are all part of the learning process. So stroke away and take your time.

3. Should I masturbate before sex to last longer the second time?

The real question appears to be about lasting longer. To last longer, you can learn the stop-start technique by yourself, which is essentially slowing down before reaching the point-of-no-return. Breathing more deeply, being more present, and engaging in more foreplay will all help you to last longer. Masturbating beforehand can actually reduce your own pleasure. There is nothing wrong in masturbating early in the day or as many times as your body desires.

4. Will I run out of sperm if I ejaculate too many times in a day?

There is no limit in the amount of sperm that a man’s body produces. If you ejaculate several times in a row, while you may have less sperm in each subsequent ejaculation, it will return to normal levels within a day. Doctors actually remind men to ejaculate frequently to help keep the prostate gland healthy. So rest assured, you can have all the orgasms you want without your sperm ever running out. In fact, you can learn to have an orgasm without ejaculation, but that is another subject.

5. Is it normal to masturbate after marriage?

Many men and women continue to masturbate when they are in a relationship, even those who are married. It does not imply that there is something wrong in the relationship. Some of the reasons married people still continue to masturbate include using it to release stress, not wanting to go through the whole process of sex, as a quick energiser, stress reliever or when partner is not available.

As Woody Allen famously said, “Don’t knock masturbation – it’s sex with someone I love”. Masturbation is a great way to learn about your own body, including ejaculatory control and mastering your orgasm potential. Let go of the guilt.

Dr Martha Lee is Founder and Clinical Sexologist of Eros Coaching in Singapore. She is a certified sexuality educator with AASECT (American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists), as well as certified sexologist with ACS (American College of Sexologists). She holds a Doctorate in Human Sexuality from Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality as well as certificates in practical counselling, life coaching and sex therapy. She is available to provide sexuality and intimacy coaching for individuals and couples, conduct sexual education workshops and speak at public events in Asia. For more, visit www.eroscoaching.com.

Speaking Opportunities

Dr. Martha Lee, Clinical Sexologist of Eros Coaching spoke about "Intimacy and Sexuality following Gynaecological Surgery" to 200 nurses at the 21st Annual Obstetrics & Gynaecology Nurses' Seminar on Sunday 23 October 2011.



She also spoke on safer sex practices to 80 pharmacists from Watsons on Tuesday 18 October 2011.

Sex News in Asia - 10/17/11

This article first appeared on Good Vibrations Magazine.

Asia

• Asian experts endorse sexual orientation, gender identity rights. Prof Douglas Sanders reports on the recently held 1st Biennial Conference of the Asia Pacific Forum of National Human Rights Institutions attended by representatives of the national human rights institutions (NHRIs) established by the governments of Afghanistan, Australia, India, Indonesia, Jordan, Malaysia, Mongolia, Nepal, New Zealand, Palestine, Philippines, Qatar, South Korea, Thailand and Timor Leste.

Singapore

• Singaporeans want explanation for nude squat saga. Malaysia is insisting that the female Immigration officer who carried out a body search on two Singaporean women, during which they were told to strip naked and perform nude squats, carried out her responsibilities and duties well.


• Married couples in Singapore have been faking their divorce in order to buy new flats to be rented. The flats rentals typically earn them an extra $2,000 to $3,000 a month.


• Local actor Andie Chen, 26, received an e-mail recently asking if he was keen to be a social escort. Would you pay $20,000 a month for his company?


• Leow Yangfa, an openly gay social worker in Singapore, has launched I Will Survive, a website to collect personal lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) stories to raise awareness about coming out for LGBT communities, and promote discussion around LGBT-relevant issues.

Taiwan

• The Department of Health (DOH) yesterday issued the investigation report on the HIV-tainted organ transplant conducted by the National Taiwan University Hospital (NTUH), which laid blame on the hospital's transplant team leader and lab technicians.


• A 60-year-old man in Singapore has been allowed by his wife to take young Vietnamese brides but only on the condition that she gets to watch their “child-making process”, reported China Press.

Malaysia

• The controversial Obedient Wives Club (OWC) has set off another round of public outrage with an “explicit sex book” which encourages a Muslim husband to have joint sex with all his wives. Another report is here.


• Man sodomises 23-day-old son after wife declines sex

China

• The third Shanghai Pride will be held from Oct 22 - 29. Jennifer Chang and Lisa Dazols, a couple who left their San Francisco home in June to travel the world for a year in search of “Supergays” who are creating change for the LGBTQ community, speak with Shanghai Pride organizers Dylan Chen, Charlene Liu and Kenneth Tan.

The Philippines

• Six men said to be homosexuals including a namesake of actor Coco Martin were caught by elements of Criminal Investigation and Detection Group (CIDG)-Cavite jerking off in front of their personal computers, in a raid at a cyber sex den in General Trias Cavite.


• Pigeon, Japan’s leading baby and maternity products manufacturer, spent years of research to find the best possible way of nursing babies to help them get the many health benefits of breast milk. Pigeon released the Peristaltic Plus, a baby nipple designed to enable newborns to suck more efficiently.


• MAKING waves of late is a group that is endearing itself to the masses. The singing gayband Wondergays who goes by colors and not by names—White, Grey, Blue, Black, Pink and Green—six “hunky” gays in different shapes and sizes but equally talented in singing and in stand-up comedy.

View last’s week Sex News in Asia here.

Disclaimer: Some of these media reports may portray sex and sexuality in a negative light. I am merely re-reporting them and may not always agree with the reports or opinions expressed.

Dr. Martha Lee is Founder and Clinical Sexologist of Eros Coaching in Singapore. She is a certified sexologist with American College of Sexologists with a Doctorate in Human Sexuality from Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality. She is available to provide sexuality and intimacy coaching for individuals and couples, conduct sexual education workshops and speak at public events in Asia. For more, visit www.eroscoaching.com.

Transgender People In The Workplace

What would your reaction be if a transgender woman applied for a job in your office today? Would you laugh at the person? Would you be shocked? Would you treat the person for who she is, not what she looks like? Can you put yourself in her position for five seconds?

Video description: A transgender woman applied for a job in my office this morning.

Media: The Moon Within Me

Lately, my face has been breaking out with acne, especially around my lower jaw. It is not a figment of my imagination; my friends have asked what has happened to my face. Is it due to a lack of sleep? Or a result of too much stress? In fact, it is probably neither. Then I began picking on my husband – what he is not doing well in our relationship, and could do better. And, for the past few days, I have been feeling tired and irritable. Today, finally, it is here. That’s right. I am talking about what every pre-menopausal woman goes through: I’m having my period.

It has not always been so bad. I had been on the Pill (otherwise known as the oral contraceptive pill) for many years. I have read enough literature to finally understand what I was actually doing to my body: “playing” with my hormones. Since cancer runs in the family, I decided to err on the side of caution and stop taking the Pill. When I was on the Pill, my complexion was actually better, my temper was more even, and I bled very little during menses.

The manipulation of the dose of hormones in the Pill can destabilise the uterine lining enough to cause some bleeding. This slight bleeding which occurs during the seven days in a cycle when a woman is not consuming the Pill is also known as a fake period. This ‘withdrawal bleeding’ and the true menstrual period are not the same thing.

So my period is here again, and it also happens to be a full moon tonight. It brings to mind how a woman’s menstrual cycle has long been associated with the cycle of the moon. In fact, the word “menstruation” is etymologically related to “moon”. The terms “menstruation” and “menses” are derived from the Latin mensis (month), which in turn relates to the Greek mene (moon) and to the roots of the English words month and moon. Charles Darwin believed that menstruation was linked to the moon’s influence on tidal rhythms, a legacy of our origin in the sea. A female’s increased desire for sexual intercourse (known as estrus) is also thought to occur around the time of the full moon.

A 1979 study of 305 women found that approximately one-third of the subjects had lunar period cycles, (i.e., a mean cycle length of 29.5 days plus or minus 1 day). Almost two-thirds of the subjects started their cycle in the brighter half of the lunar cycle, significantly more than would be expected by random distribution. Another study found a statistically significant number of menstruations occurred around the new moon.

Some authors believe women in traditional societies without night lighting (no electricity) ovulated with the full moon and menstruated with the new moon. In fact, a few studies in both humans and other animals have found that artificial light at night does influence the menstrual cycle in humans and the estrus cycle in mice.

Whether you believe the occurrence of a woman’s period has anything to do with the moon is probably irrelevant. In fact, nobody knows for sure.

My husband thinks I should try to reign myself in a bit when I show signs of PMS (premenstrual syndrome). While I had sometimes apologised for what my raging hormones have led me to say, I also recognise that they are helping me to be more sensitive and authentic to the areas in my life I am not happy with. These same hormones have helped me to verbalise and “right” the supposed wrongs in my life when I would not have the courage to on a “normal” day. True, the words may not always come out the right way (akin to a misdirected arrow), but bottling up resentment and supressing anger may be worse in the long run. We talk things through and our relationship is stronger as a result of such frank discussions.

Rather than succumb to folklore and call my menstruation a “curse” and treat it as such, I am learning to re-embrace my monthly period. This is the time when I take things more slowly, contemplate life, and re-examine my goals and desires. I use this time to be more gentle to myself and recharge my battles. I might write entries in my journal, daydream about the future a little, and rest more, all to rev myself up for the journey ahead. Rather than fight the “moon within”, I listen to my body. Do you?

Sources

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Menstrual_cycle

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Menstrual_cycle#Nightlighting_and_the_moon

Dr Martha Lee is Founder and Clinical Sexologist of Eros Coaching in Singapore. She is a certified sexuality educator with AASECT (American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists), as well as certified sexologist with ACS (American College of Sexologists). She holds a Doctorate in Human Sexuality from Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality as well as certificates in practical counselling, life coaching and sex therapy. She is available to provide sexuality and intimacy coaching for individuals and couples, conduct sexual education workshops and speak at public events in Asia. For more, visit www.eroscoaching.com.

Influence

Influence
By Joseph Norris


Drop a pebble in the water,
And its ripples reach out far;
And the sunbeams dancing on them
May reflect them to a star.


Give a smile to someone passing,
Thereby making his morning glad;
It may greet you in the evening
When your own heart may be sad.


Do a deed of simple kindness;
Though its end you may not see,
It may reach, like widening ripples,
Down a long eternity.

"Miss Representation": Official Trailer

As an ex-media student and communications practitioner in a previous career, I am a very much aware of the way the media shapes our views of gender as well as man and female roles. But this cannot be said to be the same for the men and women on the streets.

Trailer Courtesy of Girls' Club Entertainment.



Video description: Like drawing back a curtain to let bright light stream in, MISS REPRESENTATION uncovers a glaring reality we live with every day but fail to see. Directed by Jennifer Siebel Newsom, the film explores how mainstream media contribute to the under-representation of women in influential positions in America and challenges the media's limiting and often disparaging portrayals of women, which make it difficult for the average girl to see herself as powerful.

In a society where media is the most persuasive force shaping cultural norms, the collective message that our young women and men overwhelmingly receive is that a woman's value and power lie in her youth, beauty, and sexuality--and not in her capacity as a leader. While women have made strides in leadership over the past few decades, the United States still ranks 90th in the world for women in national legislatures, depression rates have doubled among teenage girls, and cosmetic surgery on minors has more than tripled in the last ten years.

Stories from teenage girls and provocative interviews with politicians, journalists, academics, and activists like Condoleeza Rice, Nancy Pelosi, Katie Couric, Rachel Maddow, Margaret Cho, Rosario Dawson and Gloria Steinem build momentum as MISS REPRESENTATION accumulates startling facts and statistics that will leave the audience shaken and armed with a new perspective.

Sex News in Asia - 10/10/11

This article first appeared on Good Vibrations Magazine.

Asia

• Women appear on India Inc's radar Corporate India, facing a looming talent crunch, is reversing historical gender discrimination against women in a concerted drive to augment their female headcount. Companies are not only bringing in more women, they are also trying to retain the existing lot in novel and more proactive ways. A recent study by the Chennai-based FLEXI Careers India, which sources only women executives, suggests that diversity hiring intent among leading companies has gone up by almost 500 percent since last year.

Singapore

• After all the fuss, the Abercrombie & Fitch Ad will be removed next week.


• One advocacy group, I Love Children, is using a softer approach to get more young people to change their mindsets about having children. It has produced a video to spread the word that one should not wait too long to start a family.


• Reverend Miak Siew’s interview with publichouse.sg on what it means to be a gay man in society. This is part 2 of his interview.


• Singaporean HIV-Positive Blood Donor Jailed For False Declaration


• Interview with AWARE Executive Director Corinna Lim on feminism.


• Yahoo! News: Will she be the next Annabel Chong? Singaporean Audrey Tan, the first Asian to be crowned Miss Erotica in an adult-themed contest in New Zealand, says she aspires to be a porn star. The 27-year-old, who lives in New Zealand, beat eight other contestants in a two-week public vote for the best nude model in New Zealand earlier this year. The competition was organised by events organiser Erotica Lifestyles Expo.


• Personal gay, lesbian, bisexual & transgender stories in Singapore collected to mark Coming Out Day on 11 October


• Initiative against errant former spouses bears fruit. Of the 24 maintenance-default cases lodged with the bureau since the initiative was rolled out three months ago, six women have successfully got their errant former spouses to pay up.

Malaysia

• Malaysia mulls sex education to combat baby-dumping


• Commentary - Baby dumping: Sex education is the answer

Indonesia

• Divorce is like a skeleton sitting waiting to be discovered in the cupboard under the stairs. More and more Indonesians are having to live with such a skeleton as divorce rates soar.


• A religious teacher from a state high school in Madura, East Java, is likely to face sanctions after he was caught having sex with a married woman during Ramadan.


• Officials in Padang, West Sumatra, have closed a nightclub and arrested two woman following a striptease performance.


• More women in Jakarta are standing up to support one another and condemn sexual assault in the capital.

Thailand

• Khemmikka Na Songkhla's government-approved alternative beauty techniques include "breast-slapping" to enhance breast size and "buttock-slapping" to firm up the rear. Must watch this video!


• Sex workers should be treated the same as those in any other career, particularly in terms of safety and access to public services, says a researcher at Thammasat University's faculty of political sciences.


• A 14-year-old girl has been forced by her mother to work as a masseuse by day and prostitute by night.


• Authorities scrambled to airlift condoms and other emergency health supplies to victims of Thailand's worst floods in decades to prevent a feared surge in unplanned pregnancies.

The Philippines

• The US ambassador to the Philippines has apologised for his controversial remark that 40 percent of male tourists visit the country for sex.


• The Philippine government welcomes foreign tourists who are seeking “good, clean fun and excitement” and not for “darker reasons.”


• A 21-year-old sex fiend must have been scared out of his wits after his victim, a 10-year-old cousin crawled out of the grave he buried her, to haunt and make him pay for his gruesome crime in Cotabato City.

China

• A Chinese woman who had four children in Britain after being turned down for asylum claims she cannot be sent home because of communist state's one child policy.

View last’s week Sex News in Asia here.

Disclaimer: Some of these media reports may portray sex and sexuality in a negative light. I am merely re-reporting them and may not always agree with the reports or opinions expressed.

Dr. Martha Lee is Founder and Clinical Sexologist of Eros Coaching in Singapore. She is a certified sexologist with American College of Sexologists with a Doctorate in Human Sexuality from Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality. She is available to provide sexuality and intimacy coaching for individuals and couples, conduct sexual education workshops and speak at public events in Asia. For more, visit www.eroscoaching.com.

Rethink Breast Cancer presents: Your Man Reminder

There is a new app to remind you to give your breasts some TLC.
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Rethink Breast Cancer presents: Your Man Reminder -- an app that gives you regular reminders to check your breasts from a hot guy of your choice.

Recent studies show that many young women aren't checking their breasts regularly... Studies also show that women are 88% more likely to watch a video if it features a really hot guy.

TLC is a great way to help detect breast cancer early.

TOUCH your breasts. Feel anything unusual?
LOOK for changes. Be aware of their shape or texture.
CHECK anything unusual with your doctor.

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Fun Trivia about Kissing

This article first appeared on HowtoKiss.com.sg, a micro site belonging to Eros Coaching.

Did you know that the modern kissing practices between husbands and wives started in Ancient Rome? Back then, female Romans were fond of drinking homemade wines. Their husbands, in order to catch them, tasted the lips of their wives; thus, the act of modern kissing is born.

Here are a few fun facts about kissing:

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  Nose Kiss – Ancient Egyptians used their noses to kiss instead of their mouths.


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  20 to 30 calories – That’s how many you burn after kissing for one minute.


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  30 Facial Muscles – That’s the number of facial muscles utilised while kissing.


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  5,300 couples – That’s the estimated number of couples in the Philippines who were kissing simultaneously during ‘Lovapalooza’ on February 14, 2005.


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  31.3 hours – That’s the longest recorded time for kissing, set in 2004 by an Italian couple.


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  A Tsar’s kiss – This is reportedly the highest regard you’ll get in Russia.


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  Philematology – That’s the term for the art or science of kissing.


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  Kiss on the Hand – This is famous English etiquette, and planting kisses on both cheeks is a Continental European greeting even today.


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  Kiss on the ground – This is what the tribes of Africa do on the path after their chief has walked upon it.


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  278 bacteria – This is how many different types of bacteria you can acquire and transfer while kissing. (depending on what you last ate)

These are only a few of the many fun facts about kissing. Most people would agree that kissing is more special if the purpose behind the act is to convey the message of affection to your loved-one.

This article first appeared on HowtoKiss.com.sg, a micro site belonging to Eros Coaching.

 

Dr. Martha Lee is Founder and Clinical Sexologist of Eros Coaching. She is a certified sexologist with a Doctorate in Human Sexuality. She provides sexuality and intimacy coaching for individuals and couples, conducts sexual education workshops and speaks at public events. For more, visit www.eroscoaching.com or email drmarthalee@eroscoaching.com.

 

Media: The Meaning of Life

This article first appeared on PublicHouse.sg.

The author of The Millionaire Messenger, Brendon Burchard, has written about how a near-fatal car accident changed his life. As he was at death’s doorway, three questions flashed through his mind:

Did I live?

Did I love?

Did I even matter?

If today was the last day of your life and you were lying on your deathbed, what would you think about?

Robin Sharma posed five big questions in his book The Greatness Guide in the hopes of causing readers to become more philosophical about what truly counts in their life. He encouraged his readers to think about and to talk about their answers, and to write them in a journal. The questions are:

Did I dream richly?

Did I live fully?

Did I learn to let go?

Did I love well?

Did I tread lightly on the earth and leave it better than I found it?

I am neither an expert trainer like Brendon Burchard, nor a leadership guru like Robin Sharma. However, reading these authors’ books made me revisit some questions I have been asking myself since I was young:

Why am I here?

What am I supposed to be doing?

What is the point of anything?

I asked my mother these questions for the first time when I was probably four years of age. She told me that I would figure these out when I was older. Hence, I was always filled with an urgency to grow up – because things certainly seemed to make a lot more sense to adults.

Before I entered primary school at age five, I asked my mother these questions again. The purpose of my life, apparently, was to get a degree, find a good man, get married, have children, and never to forget to give my mother a monthly allowance for the rest of her life. My educational path was to be this: finish primary school, go on to secondary school, proceed to junior college, and then university for my degree.

Instead, I dropped out of junior college to pursue a diploma in mass communications at Ngee Ann Polytechnic. I started working at 20, met my first husband, got married by 21 and completed my first degree at 23. Although things did not happen in the order originally laid out, I thought I had it good.

Then at 25, I found myself separated from my husband. Without the identity of being a wife, I was reduced to a nobody, or so I thought then. If I wasn’t meant to be somebody’s wife, who was I then? I went through a period of self-discovery and soul-searching to realise that: I cared. I cared deeply about the world, the society we live in, and the people around me. While my colleagues and friends were content with going through the motions of life and the humdrum of work so as to earn their keep, I was not.

I started to look beyond the box that my mother had defined for me as I was growing up. I questioned if what worked for others would work for me. If the world were my oyster, what would I do with it? If I was not afraid, what would I do? As I became engaged in volunteer work, my sense of purpose and joy for life returned. I went on to start and run a non-profit, before finding my true calling as a sexologist.

Where previously I worked in a giant corporation managing marketing communication budgets and generated endless reports, I now work hand in hand with individuals and couples in addressing their sexuality issues. Whilst my communications and public policy degrees taught me to work on macro levels, I work very much on a human scale now – with the person sitting directly across from me. It is humbling work. It is as real as it gets, and I love it. I am making a difference.

At the end of my life, I know I will die happy. To me, making a difference is the whole purpose of my life and gives my life meaning. Indeed, life is what you make of it. Have you found the meaning of your life? Do you make a difference – in the way you want?

If today was the last day of your life and you were lying on your deathbed, what would you think about?

Dr Martha Lee is Founder and Clinical Sexologist of Eros Coaching in Singapore. She is a certified sexologist with American College of Sexologists with a Doctorate in Human Sexuality from Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality. She is available to provide sexuality and intimacy coaching for individuals and couples, conduct sexual education workshops and speak at public events in Asia. For more, visit www.eroscoaching.com.

Workshops by Helen Forty

Helen Forty is returning to Singapore in November. These are three of her workshops I would recommended. I have personally met with Helen Forty and can attest to her loving nature and quality of her work, and would like to recommend her to you.

• Nov 5 and 6: Find your Life Partner - For singles


• Nov 4: Attracted better Relationships & Improve your Love Life - For couples


• Nov 12: Woman's Wisdom and Mysteries - For wome

For more, visit Wabi-Sabi and mention "Martha Lee" when you book.

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Anonymous Male's Virginity Story

This article first appeared on Virginity.com.sg, a micro site belonging to Eros Coaching.

I want to say something about sex. Remember it; be ready before sex then it becomes healthy for you. When I was 16, one day I went to my girl friend’s home. When reached in her home, none was staying in her home.

Firstly she and I talked with each other about our life. After sometime we reached in a sexual discussion with each other. She loved me very much. One time I could understand what did she want to me. Then she installed coming very near of me and caught my hand hardly and then I kissed in her lip. After that she did same to me. She was same age with me. Then we went in her bedroom and lied on her bed. Then we enjoyed more kiss with each others. After sometime we open our cloths, I stared to kiss in her breast; in this time I understood she became much sexual.

After a few minutes she was starting kiss on my penis. I enjoyed it very much. My penis became bigger, but I did not notice it before that day. After then we enjoyed sex. I saw she didn’t know how to do it. I teach her cordially, because I have seen many sex videos. After a moment I saw there was much bloody, so she became fear with it, but I talked her about that. After a moment it became so easy and we felt very happy. We continued it more than one hour.

It was my first sex. I think this is same for her. We enjoyed it very happily in first time. It is unmemorable. It was very special and horrible to us. We didn’t know about the last feelings after sex. Then, we had continued sex for some months. But I have no relation with her. It was my first sex and first room date with my girl friend.

This article first appeared on Virginity.com.sg, a micro site belonging to Eros Coaching.

Tyler's Virginity Story

This article first appeared on Virginity.com.sg, a micro site belonging to Eros Coaching

My name is Tyler I’m currently 20 years old. I just wanted to share this story of my first time with others. My first time was when I was almost 17. It was with my girlfriend. She was one of my first girlfriends. I met her in school so I didn’t know what would happen if all went bad, what will she think about me. All I wanted is that my first time goes perfect! I had only that in mind, so I kinda all prepared: roses, candles...

I remember that day, she came over after my whole family went out, we watched movies and we started talking about this, between, I loved her so much and so did she and I was scared “Would this harm her?”, “What will happen after?” but by the time we were talking, I was forgetting all of this. It was the most difficult question of my life, I asked her “Do you want to really do this?”, she came over and sat closer to me and we talked more, and started to kiss.

Then from kissing to cuddling we started to get rid of clothes, I was touching her and so did she...

She continued teasing me, we passed to bed and started our thing... it was quite fast.

For a first time it kinda hurts, you are inexperienced and all is new for you... but despite the ache, you will certainly enjoy what you’re doing.

While doing this I was wondering “Does she really enjoy?", “Am I being good in this?” but as long as she moaned I was satisfied.

Finally we finished, I went to throw the condom away and we stood in silence for a moment.

We laid on the bed after while and start cuddling.

It was getting late and she had to get going , she put on her bra, skirt and underwear while I was watching and thinking “I really did it!”.

“I get to hug you one more time before you go, Baby.” I said, and wrapped my arms around her waist from behind and tenderly kissed her.

Three months after we broke-up. To this day I don’t think I’ll ever have as good sex as I had with her, or ever love someone as much as I loved her.

This article first appeared on Virginity.com.sg, a micro site belonging to Eros Coaching.

Sex News in Asia - 10/3/11

This article first appeared on Good Vibrations Magazine.

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• Much ado about a half-naked man. Abercrombie & Fitch ad suspended by authorities. The advertisement featuring a topless man that is plastered on the Orchard shopfront of American fashion retailer Abercrombie & Fitch breaches the local advertising code of decency, saidThe Advertising Standards Authority of Singapore (ASAS), which has called for the ad to be removed. But there is a hitch - ASAS has no legal rights to enforce its decision. Another report is here. The fact that Singaporeans are divided the ruling is which is truly interesting. One reader questioned what is obscenity with an example here.


• Lawyer challenges Section 377A of Penal Code. A court here has reserved judgement on a constitutional challenge to Section 377A of the Penal Code after a lawyer filed it as his client was charged for performing oral sex on his male partner in a public toilet in CityLink Mall in March 2010. A commentary on 377A is here. Another one is here.


• PublicHouse.sg interviews Miak Siew - S'pore's first openly gay pastor


• School counsels teens in choking-game video. I wonder if the media even knows the right term for this: "asphyxiation". More here.


• Fans of anime and Japanese pop culture are in for a treat this November at the Anime Festival Asia 2011 (AFA 2011).


• Eight in 10 respondents in Singapore have reported not using any form of contraception when having sex with a new partner. This is among the highest rate of nine Asia Pacific countries surveyed. The survey was conducted among young adults aged 20 to 35 years by Bayer Healthcare earlier this year to mark World Contraception Day.


• Yahoo! News Singapore: Controversial slimming ad sparks debate. This woman voices the opinion of many plus size women here in Singapore, in response to London Weight Management's business ethics as seen in the paid informercial programs on Mediacop's free to air channels.


• Amy Cheng told her son about sex when he was 7... and of course, it had to be in the context of marriage.


• Article: How to talk to your doctor about premature ejaculation

Thailand

• A picture of how Thailand’s politics, economics, art, society and views of sex affect the LGBT people who actually live there as opposed to just pass through.

Indonesia

• Indonesia’s only female sex therapist has a weekly podcast to provide some frank, accurate talk about the bedroom.


• Q! Film Festival returns to Jakarta and 5 other cities, Sep 30 - Oct 8.

Taiwan

• Taiwanese boy band F4 member Ken Chu openly admits he is a playboy and is addicted to sex, according to a report by Apple Daily.

Myanmar

• Human rights activists are reporting an increased incidence of rape against Kachin women in areas of recent military attacks by government forces in northern Myanmar.

Japan

• The Japanese Foreign Ministry has asked the Korean government to block plans by an organization of former "comfort women" to mark their 1,000th weekly protest in front of the Japanese Embassy in Seoul by erecting a 120 cm memorial stone there.

View last’s week Sex News in Asia here.

Disclaimer: Some of these media reports may portray sex and sexuality in a negative light. I am merely re-reporting them and may not always agree with the reports or opinions expressed.

Dr. Martha Lee is Founder and Clinical Sexologist of Eros Coaching in Singapore. She is a certified sexologist with American College of Sexologists with a Doctorate in Human Sexuality from Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality. She is available to provide sexuality and intimacy coaching for individuals and couples, conduct sexual education workshops and speak at public events in Asia. For more, visit www.eroscoaching.com.

Prakash's Virginity Story

This article first appeared on Virginity.com.sg, a micro site belonging to Eros Coaching.

Myself Prakash, I am 25 years old and lives in Shimla Hills one of the beautiful State in India. I was 16 when I completed my 10^th It was after that, when my when I was introduced to sex, My friend showed me a magazine.

After that I started day dreaming about having fun with some beautiful and sexy mate. Time kept on passing and my urge for sex kept on growing. I was very shy in nature and very afraid of girls.

I completed my college like this only, and use to satisfy myself with masturbate. Once I happen to visit my maternal Uncle’s place for some function. It was in a remote village. I was given the job of arranging required stuff for the function. One even Sunita came to me. Oh I forgot to tell you about Sunita.

Sunita was a daughter of my uncle’s neighbour, She was about 20. she was very sexy her figure was 34, 28, 36. and weatish complexion.

Sunita came to me and asked me if it is possible to go to market because she need to buy some flowers for next day’s function. I told her that it will get too late because market is about 35 Km from village and it will get too dark to come back. She insisted, I asked her to take permission from her parents and get ready.

After 20 mins she came back. We were about to move now. I went to Uncle and asked if there is something to be bought from market. He said nothing. It was about 6 in the evening, and already getting dark. I took my bike asked her to sit. To my surprise she was sitting cross - legged.

The road was not very good so there was some jumps. As Sunita was sitting behind me she was holding me tightly her boobs were touching my back, this was the first time I was feeling the softness of boobs. As a result of this I was getting hard also…

On my way we started chatting, this was the first time we were talking personal. After taking about our schooling and education. She asked me if I have any girlfriend. I told No.

“Why? You are young, Smart and have a bike, how come there is no girlfriend?” she said.

This is embarrassing for me but any how. I told her that I never got a suitable girl.

“What type of girl are you looking for” she asked.

“May be like …” at this time we have reached the market. Sunita went to florist and asked him to pack flowers. After that she went to chemist shop and bought something.

It was about 8 when we got free from market. We started back, at the mean time the drizzling started. We were about half a way to our village, when the it started raining we were getting wet (outside as well as inside).

On our way back the discussion was resumed I told her that I want a girl who is sexy, bold, and easy to go with.

On our way the discussion was getting hot. She told me that she had a boyfriend who left her. All of a sudden she asked “How about me?

“What?"

“Can I be your girl friend?”

I was shocked, but excited also. “Yes.”

She hugged me more tightly after hearing this and also kissed me on my neck.

On the way there was a rain shelter, she asked me that we can wait her till rain stops. I liked the idea and parked my bike. We were already wet, I took out my phone it was also dripping, I switched it off . There was a mild moon light she was standing infront of me in the rain shelter. She was looking very beautiful, her assets were half visible because she was all wet. I was staring at her now.

“What are you looking?”

“… Nothing…” I got confused.

“I know what you want.”

“What….?”

“You want to kiss me. No?” This was an open invitation, But I was very confused.

“No” I said…

“Don’t be shy” she said and came closer to me and hugged me. Our faces are in front of each other…..

I was very confused. I don’t know what to do now. I started sweating out of fear and excitement.

She kissed me. Now it was too much for me. I was totally out of control now. Also started kissing her now like a mad man. This was the first time I was kissing someone, that too in a moonlight.

She touched my tool and said “naughtly” and gave me a naughty smile.

I started pressing her boobs, It was soo soft. I asked her if I can kiss her boobs. With some artificial reluctance she took off her kamiz (shirt) and her boobs was popping from bra in front of me, it was soo beautiful. I started kissing her and she was rubbing my dick. I never came to know, when she unzipped me. We both were very wet now.

She asked me stop for a while and took a packet from her purse (this was condom which she bought from chemist) and asked me to put it on.

She also taught me how to put it on. I was falled the moment she was trying to put on the comdom. It was very embarrassing for me, but she told me, never mind, you will be ready again soon. We took of our clothes and now lying on the floor of rain shelter. She was all naked and lying in front of me, I was trying to kiss on all the parts of her body. She also directed me to finger.

Twice in this process she failed. And now was hard again.

Now she took my tool in her hands and asked me to insert. I was scared to do this, but she guided me how to proceed.

I was in 7^th heaven when I inserted my dick in her chut for the first time. I never wanted to take it out. After few seconds she asked me to give jerks.

I stared following her instructions.

With each jerk the pleasure was increasing, after about 10 mins we both cummed. It was like my dream come true. I was very tired, and so was she. We both kissed each other. I looked at my watch it was 10 o’clock, hurriedly we put on our clothes. The rain had almost stopped.

On the way she told me that her boy friend left her because once she refused to have sex with him and today she didn’t want me to leave her. I asked her from where she learned all the tricks. She told me that she had a nice collection of x rated movies.

We started back to our village. At about quarter to 11 we reached home where everyone was waiting. My uncle was very angry I told him that we had to take shelter on the way because of heavy rain. He asked why I was not picking up the phone. I told that it was all wet so I switched it off.

Any way they were relaxed as we both reached safely.

I knew that I now I was no more a virgin…


This article first appeared on Virginity.com.sg, a micro site belonging to Eros Coaching.

The History of Kissing

This article first appeared on HowtoKiss.com.sg, a micro site belonging to Eros Coaching.

Have you ever wondered how the modern practice of kissing started? Here’s a brief history on kissing:

One could define a kiss as an act of love expressed by pressing the lips of two individuals together. A kiss is also an expression of gratitude, greeting, respect, friendship and even foreplay.

The English word kiss was derived from the Old English “cyssan.”

According to anthropologist Cesare Lombroso, it was during the 19th century that the lover’s kiss originated from the kiss a mother gives to her child. However, casual kissing was already common in Greek and Roman society, while other societies were ignorant to the act.

In the 20th century historian Ernest Crawley studied the history of kisses. According to him, “A kiss is a universal expression of affection and veneration of the higher social class people.” Furthermore, it led him to believe that kissing in Ancient Egypt was unknown, while Ancient Greece, India and Assyria were already aware of kissing and were practicing it.

While the history of kissing isn’t concrete, there are others who believe that kissing started with the ancient Romans. The wives of gladiators were widely believed to have a habit of drinking homemade wines. It is for this reason that gladiators started planting kisses on the lips of their wives: to detect if she indeed had had a drinking spree.

Today, the majority of people, no matter which class they belong to, practice kissing as an act of endearment, respect, happiness, and even grief. In addition, passionate kissing is utilized to show deep affection by waking up the sensuality of your lover.

This article first appeared on HowtoKiss.com.sg, a micro site belonging to Eros Coaching.

Dr. Martha Lee is Founder and Clinical Sexologist of Eros Coaching. She is a certified sexologist with a Doctorate in Human Sexuality. She provides sexuality and intimacy coaching for individuals and couples, conducts sexual education workshops and speaks at public events. For more, visit www.eroscoaching.com or email drmarthalee@eroscoaching.com.

Media: On being weird

This article first appeared on PublicHouse.sg.

I don’t want to be you anymore. It’s too hard.

I know I am weird. I have been told that I am weird all my life. In fact, what I do for a living is considered weird, too (I’m not saying my work is actually weird) – I am a sexologist. I eat, breathe, and think, about sex and sexuality. Besides working with people with sexual issues and concerns, I conduct sexuality education workshops and speak at various public events.

I am all right with being called or considered weird, because I have had a lot of practice being called a weirdo. That’s right. You name it – from my classmates and friends since kindergarten, all manner of teachers, and even my own relatives and family members – they all have, at one time or another, called me weird, strange, and bizarre.

Even though I was told I was strange, the realisation that I was weird did not adversely affect me until I entered primary one and the most popular girl in class (who was also the teacher’s pet, let’s call her “B”), promptly told the entire class during recess time not to play with me because “she is weird”. I learned this because somebody in class, in turn, told me she wouldn’t be playing with me anymore – she couldn’t afford to offend teacher’s pet B. What is weird? What makes me weird? Why did I have to be born weird?

Five years later, by some weird (pun intended) cosmic coincidence, B and I ended up in the same class again and became friends. Finally feeling more secure, I ventured to ask why she played that cruel joke on me in primary one, only to be completely thrown off balance again. She shrugged her shoulders and said, “You seemed weird then. You are less weird now.” Again, I was weird, even if I was somehow ‘less weird’ at the present time.

I shall spare you the details of how that episode and other incidents affected me as I was growing up. After all, I’m not a robot. I had body image issues, suffered from low self-esteem, and had difficulties trusting people or making friends. I cannot remember when exactly, but after years of trying to get people to like me (so they will be happy with me and, please, please, be my friend) and behaving more “appropriately” (so they will just quit calling me “weird”), I just gave up.

That’s right. Since I certainly wasn’t making any headway in getting people to like me (and I had been trying for years on end by then), I quit trying to make everybody like me (which meant behaving like everybody else), and just be, well, me. And what freedom! I finally embraced my weirdness for what it was – whatever it was. Ironically, right around that time, “weird” was replaced with the adjective “unique”. I started becoming noticed as an individual and my “uniqueness” became an asset where previously it seemed a liability, even a curse.

In my earlier years of schooling, boys and girls would be eager to form their own cliques and be as uniform as possible. I drifted from one clique to another, never quite staying or belonging to any particular one. Later, when I entered the polytechnic, where individuality, not conformity, was celebrated and recognised, I began to truly blossom. It was years later that I realised that there was nothing wrong with me – and there never had been. Somehow, I stood out, and whilst I never hurt anybody, they didn’t like how I was making them feel.

And, because I had so much practice being alienated, with standing alone, with being the odd one out; now, as an adult, I care less about what others think of me (not that I don’t care at all), and more of what I feel is right for me. The work I do can be isolating and make anyone feel alienated. Yet I persevere. Social acceptance and approval are less important than serving a cause higher than myself – helping those who often have no other means of support for their sexuality issues. As a sexologist, indeed, I stand apart from others. I did not start out seeking to be different. I am not different for the sake of being different. I am different because I am simply being me. And you are you.

So, yes, you may still think I am weird. I can only say that I am really being true to myself. And please, don’t let that scare you away from seeking support.

Dr Martha Lee is Founder and Clinical Sexologist of Eros Coaching in Singapore. She is a certified sexologist with American College of Sexologists with a Doctorate in Human Sexuality from Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality. She is available to provide sexuality and intimacy coaching for individuals and couples, conduct sexual education workshops and speak at public events in Asia. For more, visit www.eroscoaching.com.

Kissing Your Health Problems Goodbye

This article first appeared on HowtoKiss.com.sg, a micro site belonging to Eros Coaching.

It is true that a kiss is not just a kiss. Aside from the fun and sensual elements, it also brings multiple health benefits. A number of medical studies have validated that kissing can help lead the body to the path of wellness.

So, what does smooching do for our body? Below are just a few of the many advantages:

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  It can greatly reduce stress. – Passionately kissing the love of your life can boost your self-esteem, lower stress hormones and give you inner peace. Kissing produces an increase in the body’s production of a calming hormone called oxytocin.


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  It helps the body to burn calories. – Frequent kissers can now bid goodbye to food cutback and say hello to a kissing diet. Just like exercise, it helps you burn calories and lower your cholesterol level, resulting in a boost to your metabolism.


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  It keeps the cardiovascular system healthy. – Kissing helps your heart by pumping more blood. It also helps lower your blood pressure.


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  It acts as a pain reliever. – Whether it is a headache or a toothache, kissing helps relieve the pain due to the presence of an anaesthetic in our saliva. Furthermore, kissing produces endorphins which are more powerful than morphine.


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  It can extend life expectancy. – Don’t leave home without a kiss. According to statistics, a goodbye kiss before going out of the house can increase your lifespan by five years.


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  It fights off infection. – Note that during kissing, salivating produces natural antibiotics which fight off infections. Medical studies have shown that people engaged in frequent kissing will have less exposure to stomach, bladder and blood infections.


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  It helps to smooth our skin. – Kissing helps exercise our facial muscles by keeping the facial skin tight and smooth, thereby preventing sagging cheeks and wrinkles.

Bear in mind that, for every passionate kiss you engage in, you are doing your health a big favour. Not only are you enjoying some sensuous fun, but you are also helping yourself, too.

This article first appeared on HowtoKiss.com.sg, a micro site belonging to Eros Coaching.

 

Dr. Martha Lee is Founder and Clinical Sexologist of Eros Coaching. She is a certified sexologist with a Doctorate in Human Sexuality. She provides sexuality and intimacy coaching for individuals and couples, conducts sexual education workshops and speaks at public events. For more, visit www.eroscoaching.com or email drmarthalee@eroscoaching.com.

 

What is GWM?

GWM is an acronym used to either mean gay white male, or gay working male, used within gay chats and personals.

Have you come across this term?