Pink Dot 2010: Focusing On Our Families (Part 2)

The second in a series of videos celebrating the bonds of LGBT people and their families. The giant pink dot which will be formed at Hong Lim Park on May 15 will not only affirm these bonds, but will also symbolise a more inclusive Singapore where everyone will have the freedom to love. Please come, and bring your family and friends! For details, visit http://pinkdotsg.blogspot.com/



“When you walk out on the street you have to face the cold hard facts, the world, and the way people look at you...it’s hard. Home is supposed to be the safe place where you can go to for warmth and love, and at the end of the day it’s good to know that there’s somebody you can go home to, who doesn’t judge you, who loves you for who you are.”- Jamie Yee

Read the full post here.

If by Rudyard Kipling

IF you can keep your head when all about you
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you,
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
But make allowance for their doubting too;
If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
Or being lied about, don’t deal in lies,
Or being hated, don’t give way to hating,
And yet don’t look too good, nor talk too wise:

If you can dream – and not make dreams your master;
If you can think – and not make thoughts your aim;
If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster
And treat those two impostors just the same;
If you can bear to hear the truth you’ve spoken
Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,
Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken,
And stoop and build ‘em up with worn-out tools:

If you can make one heap of all your winnings
And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss,
And lose, and start again at your beginnings
And never breathe a word about your loss;
If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
To serve your turn long after they are gone,
And so hold on when there is nothing in you
Except the Will which says to them: ‘Hold on!’

If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,
Or walk with Kings – nor lose the common touch,
if neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you,
If all men count with you, but none too much;
If you can fill the unforgiving minute
With sixty seconds’ worth of distance run,
Yours is the Earth and everything that’s in it,
And – which is more – you’ll be a Man, my son!

How Pregnancy Happens

To shake things up a bit today, this is a fun animated video about how conception occurs by Planned Parenthood Federation of America.

Free Workshop: How to Release Stress and Tension

Eros Coaching and Peace at Work presents a FREE 2.5 hour introductory workshop which demonstrates a meaningful way for couples to grow together.
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Who is Stuart Mackay?

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Stuart has been practicing and teaching healing through negative stress and tension release both in Australia and internationally for over 29 years. He is the author of several popular publications including the Peace at work technique. Through his practical self-help programs since the early eighties, Stuart has helped and supported thousands of people still their minds and consequently, live calmer, clearer and healthier lives.

How It Started

Stuart viewed meditative practices with extreme skepticism. As the owner of a thriving design and manufacturing business, he was typically consumed by stress.

In 1979 Stuart fired an employee whom he incorrectly perceived to be slow and unproductive. When the employee returned to collect his termination payment, he told Stuart that he had completed all allocated tasks effectively and efficiently.

He pointed out that although other employees had managed to create an impression of 'busy-ness' and apparent productivity, they had actually been less efficient and had made costly errors. Their constant, though not necessarily productive activity had simply been in tune with Stuart's stressed state. Stuart was aware that the former employee did a meditative practice and casually questioned him about it.

The man replied "it's like having a window in your mind, through which you perceive life. Each time you practice you are cleaning the window. After a while you begin to see life more clearly." He suggested that Stuart could learn to practice and it was at this point that Stuart's life changed.

Not long after, Stuart gave away his seven-year-old business to his staff and began a journey to quieten his mind and focus his life. He discovered that most existing tools were unnecessarily complex and shrouded in doctrine.

Stuart began to devote his energies to producing such a tool that is simple, practical and free of religion, doctrine, personalities and dependency.

Within two years Stuart co-authored with David Casson and published 'Access Track' in the USA - a comprehensive audio course on how to release negative stress and tension easily and effectively at home. He later developed the Peace at work technique to meet the needs of a rapidly changing stressed out, time poor society.

Over the last 29 years, Stuart has traveled and presented stress release as a tool for healing and clarity in Hong Kong, New York, Chicago, London, Auckland and Sydney. At a community level, Stuart has worked in hospitals, colleges and healing retreats. He has conducted a private healing practice in Sydney, Australia since 1985.

Date: Thur 27 May 2010
Time: 7 - 9:30p.m.
Fee: Free
Venue: 199B Thomson Road, Goldhill Centre, Singapore 307636

Goldhill Centre is next to Goldhill Plaza and United Square, and diagonally opposite Velocity. If you are coming via MRT, the station is Novena (look for the underpass from Novena MRT Station, towards “United Square”). If you are driving, look out for Thomson Rd. There are carparks at Goldhill Centre, United Square and Goldhill Plaza.


RSVP: Please email name and mobile to info@eroscoaching.com

Pink Dot 2010: Focusing On Our Families (Part 1)

The first in a series of videos celebrating the bonds of LGBT people and their families. The giant pink dot we need your help to form at Hong Lim Park on May 15 will not only affirm these bonds, but will also symbolise a more inclusive Singapore where everyone will have the freedom to love. Please come, and bring your family and friends! For details, visit http://pinkdotsg.blogspot.com/

Music Track: Dreams of a Butterfly by Darren Ng
Edited by He Shuming

Eileena Lee and her mum for sharing their "coming out" journey, as part of this year's Pink Dot publicity videos



I have had the honor of meeting Eileena and I admire her for her tireless advocacy work towards the LGBT cause in Singapore.

What makes one gay?

Much has been studied and said about what makes a person gay. For that matter, you could ask what makes one heterosexual?

This YouTube video 'Gay Education' does a good job in shedding some light about it.

Sex Explained by iPods

We have had sex explained graphically with pens. Now sex is explained using iPods.

Check it out here.

Thanks to Dr. Debby Herbenick's post on Mysexprofessor.com.

Media: Vaginismus

This same article first appeared in The Online Citizen.


Recently a girlfriend admitted that until she met me, she had always thought that vaginismus was a myth – a disease that was made up, or had been eradicated in the ’80s, and most definitely did not exist in modern day.

In fact, vaginismus is a very real sexual concern that women experience, and more common than we might think.

Vaginismus is the instantaneous tightening of the muscles around the vagina when penetration of the vagina is attempted, making penetration difficult, painful or impossible. This involuntary reaction happens because the body perceives penetration as upsetting, painful (in anticipation of it), frightening, or dangerous. The mind may be willing, but the body is screaming “No Entry!”

Both the woman with vaginismus and her partner can feel very distressed, helpless, frustrated, and inadequate. She might experience self-blame and a loss of self-confidence for her inability to have penetrative sex. Inaccurate sexual information and the lack of understanding of the woman’s body will worsen the condition, often leading to alienation and even break-ups.

When Cindy*, 28, came to see me, she had already sought treatment from several gynaecologists who had examined her, found nothing physically wrong with her and told her to “just relax”. One doctor suggested she used a dilator kit, which helps expand the vaginal passage gradually, but Cindy rejected it as being too intimidating.

Melissa*, 35 and married for 10 years, has the same condition. She came to see me frustrated with the lack of concrete results after having paid top dollar to see the best gynaecologists. Melissa was examined each visit and instructed to do Kegel exercises (which consists of contracting and relaxing the muscles that form part of the pelvic floor) – but she was not told why. Like Cindy, there was little dialogue between doctor and patient.

Realising that the cause was psychological, I made sure both ladies understood their sexual anatomy (what is what and where), and the sexual response cycle (what happens during sex). We began a conversation about what she can expect to feel and what can be done to alleviate pain during penetrative sex; this conversation continued through the course of our sessions. The process to demystify what sex was and deal directly with their condition had begun.

I taught my clients a combination of breathing and relaxation techniques, physical callisthenics, and pelvic exercises which she was to do each day. The purpose was to retrain her to develop awareness and comfort with her body as well as to sensitize and strengthen her pelvic muscles. I encouraged Cindy and Melissa to each keep a journal so she could monitor her own progress, record any feelings and memories that came up, and to better remember what she would like to share with me during our sessions.

By our second session, Cindy said she felt ‘different’ physically but was unable to articulate how exactly. In her determination to overcome vaginismus, she had already been practising vaginal insertion with her dildo. I encouraged her to continue her daily practice. Also, I suggested that rather than push or force an object into her vagina, she could simply hold the dildo at the entrance of her vagina, incorporating her breathing and relaxation exercises, so her vagina would ‘open up’ and ‘receive’ naturally.

Similarly, I encouraged Melissa to purchase a dildo, smaller than the vibrator she already had, and to practise at home. She is to attempt penetration after having achieved her orgasm through self stimulation. When Melissa emailed to say she was able to do self penetration with her dildo without pain, I knew she was close to a break through.

In our third session, Cindy wondered aloud how penetrative sex would change her and her relationship. I was secretly delighted at how our conversation had progressed from what sex was about, and dealing with pain, to what might change for her emotionally when penetrative sex did happen.

Cindy was unable to see me for a few weeks due to work. However, when I next heard from her – it was fantastic news! She had been successful in penetrative sex with her partner for the first time.

Melissa had amazing news of her own! She was able to have successful penetrative sex with her husband before our third session – thrice in fact, each time better than the previous encounter. She was overjoyed, “I cannot thank you enough. You are truly God-sent. I have been struggling for so long. This is better than winning [a] one-million-dollar lottery.”

In her thank you note, Cindy wrote, “If I had not met you, I am certain that I would still be in the same position I was in a few months ago, struggling with something that I thought was near impossible.”

I saw Cindy for a fourth time where we discussed methods to better enjoy the sex she was already having. At our third session, Melissa was radiant, glowing with joy and more beautiful than I have seen her. Her husband and her are communicating more, happier than ever and enjoying every sexual experience. Both ladies are well on their way to greater sexual pleasure and satisfaction, and embracing life as a complete being.

Miracle worker, I am not. I provided Cindy and Melissa with the education, encouragement, and individualized treatment based on techniques that have been proven to work. Vaginismus is treatable.

Poem: Imagine a Lover (for Men)

Imagine a Lover
...for those seeking a woman to love.

Until you imagine something, it remains an impossibility.
Once imagined, it becomes your experience.

Imagine a lover who has walked through her past.
A lover who is aware of her historic vulnerabilities.
Who takes responsibility for her own stuff.

Imagine a lover who has developed her talents and gifts.
A lover who isn’t waiting for the prince to arrive.
Who has prepared a financially stable future for herself.

Imagine a lover who assumes equality in her relationships.
A lover who brings her interests and experience with her.
Whose presence in your life both challenges and delights you.

Imagine a lover who has embraced her own strength.
A lover who doesn’t need a knight in shining armor to save her.
Who won't fall apart when you share doubts and fears.

Imagine a lover who tells the truth.
A lover who co-creates solutions for your shared challenges.
Who wrestles with you for truth’s blessing.

Imagine a lover who expresses her sexual needs and desires.
A lover who is capable of both giving and receiving pleasure.
Who fully participates in the deepening sexual intimacy you share.

Imagine a lover who accepts her aging, and yours, with grace.
A lover who doesn’t hide the changes in her body.
With whom you celebrate the accumulation of your years.

And so it is!

Imagine a Lover (Seeking Woman)© Patricia Lynn Reilly, 2003
www.imagineAwoman.com

The poem is copyrighted and may not be used without permission. I had obtained permission. Send an email at permissions@imagineAwoman.com to request to use, print, or distribute the poem in any format.

News from Imagine a Woman International: April 2, 2010
Since 1995, the “Imagine a Woman” poem has circled the globe, inspiring books, screenplays, videos, life transitions, professional portfolios, ministries, coaching practices, relationships, virtual communities, social networks, and organizational missions. This year Imagine a Woman International is celebrating the poem’s 15th year anniversary with a new website and new programs and opportunities for personal growth and professional enhancement. You're invited to the "Imagine a Woman" poem's 15th Birthday Party throughout April at www.imagineAwoman.com. Invite your friends and come on over!

Poem: Imagine a Lover (for Women)

Imagine a Lover
...for those seeking a man to love.

Until you imagine something, it remains an impossibility.
Once imagined, it becomes your experience.

Imagine a lover who accepts himself.
A lover whose capacity to love you non-judgementally
deepens as he is merciful toward himself.

Imagine a lover who takes care of himself.
A lover who isn’t looking for a mother replacement.
Who participates in the everyday details of a shared life.

Imagine a lover who tells the truth.
A lover who trusts his experience and expresses it.
Who welcomes the exchange of truth with interest and respect.

Imagine a lover who acknowledges the full range of human emotion.
A lover who expresses his feelings clearly and directly.
Who witnesses your feelings with tenderness and grace.

Imagine a lover who is committed to a joyful life.
A lover who doesn’t create chronic crisis and conflict.
Who has the relationship skills to navigate challenging moments.

Imagine a lover who enjoys the moment. A lover who delights
in pleasurable sensations without a destination in mind.
Who allows your sexual intimacy to unfold spontaneously.

Imagine a lover with the depth to honor you as you age.
A lover who has moved beyond the "partner as ornament" mentality.
Who celebrates the fullness of your years, wisdom, and power.

And so it is!

Imagine a Lover (Seeking Man)© Patricia Lynn Reilly, 2003
www.imagineAwoman.com

The poem is copyrighted and may not be used without permission. I had obtained permission. Send an email at permissions@imagineAwoman.com to request to use, print, or distribute the poem in any format.

The version for men tomorrow!

News from Imagine a Woman International: April 2, 2010
Since 1995, the “Imagine a Woman” poem has circled the globe, inspiring books, screenplays, videos, life transitions, professional portfolios, ministries, coaching practices, relationships, virtual communities, social networks, and organizational missions. This year Imagine a Woman International is celebrating the poem’s 15th year anniversary with a new website and new programs and opportunities for personal growth and professional enhancement. You're invited to the "Imagine a Woman" poem's 15th Birthday Party throughout April at www.imagineAwoman.com. Invite your friends and come on over!

Poem: Imagine Lovers

Imagine Lovers

Until you imagine something, it remains an impossibility.
Once imagined, it becomes your experience.
Imagine lovers...

Who smile in each other's company.
They say a strong and sensual YES to each other.
Their YESes meet and fill their experience.

Who tell the truth about what works and what doesn't.
They co-create solutions for their shared challenges.
No truth is too hard for them to speak or hear.

Who spend purposeful time together.
They cultivate life-affirming friends and experiences.
They share the everyday details of life with ease and grace.

Who guard each other's solitude.
They cultivate spaces in their togetherness.
They delight in each other’s individuality.

Who turn toward each other with heart-full attention.
Their sexual and orgasmic impulses are moistened by their
emotional connection and flow naturally in each other’s presence.

Who support each other’s creative impulses and expression.
They welcome and encourage shared creative adventures.
They aren’t afraid to color outside the lines.

Who share a spiritual practice of silence and reflection
to stay in alignment with the essence of their love.
Gratitude for ALL THAT IS fills their relationship.

And so it is!

Imagine Lovers© Patricia Lynn Reilly, 2003
www.imagineAwoman.com

The poem is copyrighted and may not be used without permission. I had obtained permission. Send an email at permissions@imagineAwoman.com to request to use, print, or distribute the poem in any format.

News from Imagine a Woman International: April 2, 2010
Since 1995, the “Imagine a Woman” poem has circled the globe, inspiring books, screenplays, videos, life transitions, professional portfolios, ministries, coaching practices, relationships, virtual communities, social networks, and organizational missions. This year Imagine a Woman International is celebrating the poem’s 15th year anniversary with a new website and new programs and opportunities for personal growth and professional enhancement. You're invited to the "Imagine a Woman" poem's 15th Birthday Party throughout April at www.imagineAwoman.com. Invite your friends and come on over!

Colemen's Rap: "I Want To Eat Your Pussy"

I came across this rap on Dodson and Ross' blog.

Some of you might find it offensive to be referring to the vulva in different slang words, some of which I never heard while growing up in Singapore. However if we can't have fun laughing about sex occasionally outside of the bedroom, what are our chances of relaxing and having pleasure in bed?

So enjoy... "I Want To Eat Your Pussy" by Steve Coleman.

Farrell: I am Against Homophobia

Colin James Farrell (born May 31, 1976) is a Golden Globe- and Satellite Award-winning Irish actor, who has appeared in Hollywood films including Tigerland, Daredevil, Miami Vice, Minority Report, Phone Booth, The Recruit, Alexander, In Bruges, and S.W.A.T.

He has thrown his support behind an anti-homophobia campaign in his native Ireland - recalling the horrific bullying his homosexual brother, Eamon, endured during his school years. Farrell admits he still can't understand why Eamon was targeted by bullies because of his sexuality.

He says, "I can't remember much about the years of physical and emotional abuse my brother Eamon suffered. I was very small. The thing I do remember though, quite literally, is blood on his school shirt when he came home in the afternoon. The beatings and taunting were very frequent for him and a constant part of his school years.

"People are often afraid of difference. They feel that anything that causes fear, should be turned away from. My brother represented fear for so many people, but caused joy in my life. From a very young age he made me laugh with his intelligence and wit, made me aspire to his strength and goodness. He was to be embraced.

"To many of the students of his school however he was to be feared. He was to be turned away from. I didn't understand it then, and I still don't now."

You may not understand why one is a homosexual. And the debate of the causes still continues. However I will state for the record that it is not right to hurt/ hit/ discriminate anybody. Whether this person is white, yellow, lack, green or purple; straight, bended or curved; or tall, short, fat, ugly etc is irrelevant.

Media: The Elephant in the Bedroom

For most people, sex is a sensitive and difficult subject to talk about.

Click here to read the article I wrote for The Online Citizen.

Britney Gets Airbrushed too

Briteny Spears have released pictures without airbrushing to show the world what a real woman looks like. Good for her!

It is not all real ladies! You are normal because the media is playing with your mind of what 'normal' means.

Click here to view the pictures.

Media: I am What?

I am profiled in a CNNGo online article entitled "You're a what? Jobs we wish we had" with the subheader "Meet the people who do the cool jobs in Singapore the rest of us aren't brave enough to try."

Read more here.

Poem: Imagine a Woman II

Imagine a woman who is interested in her own life.
A woman who embraces her life as teacher, healer, and challenge.
Who is grateful for the ordinary moments of beauty and grace.

Imagine a woman who participates in her own life.
A woman who meets each challenge with creativity.
Who takes action on her own behalf with clarity and strength.

Imagine a woman who has crafted a fully-formed solitude.
A woman who is available to herself.
Who chooses friends and lovers with the capacity to respect her solitude.

Imagine a woman who acknowledges the full range of human emotion.
A woman who expresses her feelings clearly and directly.
Who allows them to pass through her as naturally as the breath.

Imagine a woman who tells the truth.
A woman who trusts her experience of the world and expresses it.
Who refuses to defer to the perceptions, thoughts, and responses of others.

Imagine a woman who follows her creative impulses.
A woman who produces original creations.
Who refuses to color inside someone else's lines.

Imagine a woman who has relinquished the desire for intellectual approval.
A woman who makes a powerful statement with every action she takes.
Who asserts to herself the right to reorder the world.

Imagine a woman who has grown in knowledge and love of herself.
A woman who has vowed faithfulness to her own life.
Who remains loyal to herself. Regardless.

Imagine yourself as this woman.

“Imagine a Woman” © Patricia Lynn Reilly, 1995
www.imagineAwoman.com

“Imagine a Woman II” is copyrighted and may not be used without permission. I had obtained permission. Send an email at permissions@imagineAwoman.com to request to use, print, or distribute the “Imagine a Woman II” poem in any other format.

“Imagine a Woman” © Patricia Lynn Reilly, 1995
www.imagineAwoman.com


News from Imagine a Woman International: April 2, 2010
Since 1995, the “Imagine a Woman” poem has circled the globe, inspiring books, screenplays, videos, life transitions, professional portfolios, ministries, coaching practices, relationships, virtual communities, social networks, and organizational missions. This year Imagine a Woman International is celebrating the poem’s 15th year anniversary with a new website and new programs and opportunities for personal growth and professional enhancement. You're invited to the "Imagine a Woman" poem's 15th Birthday Party throughout April at www.imagineAwoman.com. Invite your friends and come on over!

How Coaching Works

A four minute video that shows how the coaching process works.



A coach helps take you from where you want to go - say point 'A' to 'B' - in the fastest possible way by creating a safe space to explore issues and holding you in the highest possible regard. A coach also supports you in breaking down your goals into smaller, achievable steps and cheering you each step of the way.

For more about sexuality coaching/ counselling, please get in touch with Eros Coaching at info@eroscoaching.com.

300-Year-Old Porn Collection Found

A collection of steamy books about the sexual adventures of couples 300 years ago was found hidden in the library of a British manor house, The Sun reported Friday.

The tales, published in ancient types of booklets known as Chapbooks, were printed on paper so thin hardly any other examples survived. They were found behind other books at Townend House in the Lake District, northern England.

A spokeswoman for Britain's National Trust, which owns the books, said: "They contain saucy, even rude tales, which were found to be rather amusing by their 18th century readers."

In the introduction to his Encyclopedia of Erotic Literature, C.J. Scheiner describes erotology thus: "Erotology is a multidisciplinary field. Its primary concern is the collection and investigation of all manner of expression concerned with sex. This includes not only the actual physical act of procreation, but the attitudes toward it, the social and cultural controls on it, the depictions of it in art and literature, the psychology and physiology (i.e. mind and body) at all levels of physical and mental complexity to explain the instigation and successful completion of copulation, and the artifices (aphrodisiacs) used to promote sexual activity. Erotology concerns itself with the real and tangible, as well as the symbolic and surrogate..."

Porn has evolved over time and it reflect the culture and thinking of the period. It forms a part of where we have come and helps us understand who we are now. It is our heritage.

New: Eros Essential Oil for Women

Eros Coaching is introducing our own essential oil for women!

Lovingly created with women in mind, Eros is a sweet blend of Rose and Geranium which promises to help relax, balance and prepare women for love-making.

Rose, known as queen of flowers, will help bring out your inner beauty and magnificence; while Geranium is anti-viral, anti-bacterial, anti-inflammatory, relaxing, decongestant, anti-bacterial, anti-depressant, balancing and uplifting.

Self collect S$22; Local mailing S$25. To order, please email info@eroscoaching.com.



Logo designed by Casey Chen.

Caring about Equality

The Give a Damn Campaign is for everybody who cares about gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender equality. It doesn't matter whether you are straight, gay, lesbian, bisexual or transgender, this website promises to help you get informed about the issues and get involved, at a pace that works for you.



Equality.
Get Informed.
Get Involved.
Give a Damn!

Take action at http://www.wegiveadamn.org/

Your Finger was up in the Air

You get the some of the sex negative news from middle East. A British couple is appealing a jail sentence that they received for sharing a passionate kiss in a Dubai restaurant. Another British couple was sentenced to three months in jail in 2008 for having sex on a Dubai beach.

Now an alleged obscene gesture has a British man facing a possible six months in jail in Dubai. Police arrested Simon Andrews, 56, for public indecency (allegedly sticking up his middle finger) after an Iraqi aviation student complained.

The Daily Mail reported that Andrews was arrested for outraging public decency in August. He has been banned from leaving the country because he faces trial. Andrews denies he made any offensive gesture. The Iraqi has not appeared in court against him and there are no witnesses, the Daily News reported a court source told the British Sun newspaper. He has another court date on April 4.

Now if the lady driver who rolled down her windows, yelled at me, and gave me 'the finger' when I misread the traffic sign over the weekend would just do the same in Dubai, how sweet would that be? Actually it wasn't the car honking, yelling or even the finger that shocked me, it was by how ugly she looked.

Electronic Underpants can send Text Messages

An Australian company Friday announced the rollout of what it said were the world's first electronic underpants, saying its product was able to send text messages if the wearer became incontinent.

Designed for the elderly and infirm, the SIMsystem will be used in homes for the aged across New South Wales state to monitor incontinence after successful trials in Victoria, the company Simavita said. Its underpants have a disposable element similar to a regular incontinence pad and include a detachable transmitter that relays readings from the pad's sensor strip over a wireless network to a central computer. Alerts are sent via text message or over the institution's paging system.

More than 90 percent of Australians living in elderly care facilities are believed to suffer from incontinence -- a problem that currently requires staff to carry out frequent manual checks throughout the day.

Whilst this invention might cut down on staff having to carry out frequent checks, I do wonder about the appropriateness of it all and how this might invade one's sense of privacy and boundaries. I am curious if SIMsystem detects ejaculation caused through self stimulation or wet dreams.

First Legal Male Prostitute in Nevada Resigns

The Bordello Beefcake has called it quits. "Markus," the first stud-for-hire at a Nevada bordello, has left the business after bringing in fewer than 10 clients since his debut in January, the Las Vegas Review Journal reported Friday.

But Bobbi Davis, owner of the Shady Lady Ranch, said she would press on without him. In fact, she told the paper, his workload has been taken on by a Las Vegas man whose nom de bordello is -- wait for it -- Y. Not.

However, Not has had his own share of problems. The paper quoted Davis as saying he had seen about 10 customers when an electrical problem in his bungalow forced the brothel to suspend his services until the wiring was fixed in May or June.

As for Markus, she said his departure was a “mutual decision” and told the paper he “went back to do movies,” an apparent reference to his earlier career in the adult film business.

Markus, Nevada’s first licensed male prostitute, had trouble from the outset, when he compared himself to civil rights heroine Rosa Parks in an interview with Details magazine, according to the newspaper. Davis also said some of his fellow female employees at the Shady Lady, about 150 miles northwest of Las Vegas, were not happy to have a man in their working ranks.

“I don’t know why,” the paper quoted her as saying. “It’s not like they’re competing for the same customers.”

In addition, I am sure the media attention was not helpful in getting more clients.

Poem: Imagine a Woman I

Imagine a woman who believes it is right and good she is a woman.
A woman who honors her experience and tells her stories.
Who refuses to carry the sins of others within her body and life.

Imagine a woman who trusts and respects herself.
A woman who listens to her needs and desires.
Who meets them with tenderness and grace.

Imagine a woman who acknowledges the past's influence on the present.
A woman who has walked through her past.
Who has healed into the present.

Imagine a woman who authors her own life.
A woman who exerts, initiates, and moves on her own behalf.
Who refuses to surrender except to her truest self and wisest voice.

Imagine a woman who names her own gods.
A woman who imagines the divine in her image and likeness.
Who designs a personal spirituality to inform her daily life.

Imagine a woman in love with her own body.
A woman who believes her body is enough, just as it is.
Who celebrates its rhythms and cycles as an exquisite resource.

Imagine a woman who honors the body of the Goddess in her changing body.
A woman who celebrates the accumulation of her years and her wisdom.
Who refuses to use her life-energy disguising the changes in her body and life.

Imagine a woman who values the women in her life.
A woman who sits in circles of women.
Who is reminded of the truth about herself when she forgets.

Imagine yourself as this woman.

“Imagine a Woman” © Patricia Lynn Reilly, 1995
www.imagineAwoman.com


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News from Imagine a Woman International: April 2, 2010
Since 1995, the “Imagine a Woman” poem has circled the globe, inspiring books, screenplays, videos, life transitions, professional portfolios, ministries, coaching practices, relationships, virtual communities, social networks, and organizational missions. This year Imagine a Woman International is celebrating the poem’s 15th year anniversary with a new website and new programs and opportunities for personal growth and professional enhancement. You're invited to the "Imagine a Woman" poem's 15th Birthday Party throughout April at www.imagineAwoman.com. Invite your friends and come on over!

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Are you a 'Heterophobic"?

Heterophobia is a term used to describe irrational fear of, aversion to, or discrimination against heterosexuals.

Heterophobic is the adjective form of this term used to describe the qualities of these characteristics while heterophobe is the noun form given as a title to individuals with heterophobic characteristics.

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Book review: For Yourself

For Yourself: The Fulfillment of Female Sexuality by Lonnie Barbach

Originally published in 1975 during the height of the women’s liberation movement, this is a classic text that offers a step-by-step, self-help program for women to discover a new world of fulfillment for themselves.

With an emphasis on clear, factual advice, and simple, effective exercises, it helps women who have never connected with their own sexuality, who see sex as something they do for their partners and not for themselves understand their body better, clear up misconceptions, and better achieve orgasm. In so doing, you might feel less anxiety or stress towards sex, adjust your views on sex and perhaps be more comfortable with your sexuality and femininity, and be a happier person in general.

This book includes: a detailed description of female sexual response; exercises that will help gradually awaken dormant sexuality; explanations that dispel misunderstandings about sex and sexual response; as well as Insights into the essential role of mental and emotional attitude toward sexual gratification.

Features:
¤ For any female who is pre-orgasmic or already orgasmic
• Practical book with useful self exploration and partnered exercises
• Sex positive emphasizing that it is normal to have sexual wants and desires
• Includes anatomy diagram and explanation of female sexual response

Publisher:
Signet, 2002

Quotable Quotes: Sex and Sexuality

You can learn more about healthy sexuality through discovering what other therapists, writers, and sexual health advocates have said about it.

Healthy Sex Quotations I found from here:

Only the united beat of sex and heart together can create ecstacy. --Anais Nin

Nothing is sexier than the naked mind--nothing more seductive than the inventive imagination. -- Michael Grosso

The flower, the sky, your beloved, can only be found in the present moment. --Thich Nhat Hanh
An embrace should fill the heart as well as the arms. --Hugh & Gail Prather

Sexual love is the most stupendous fact of the universe, and the most magical mystery our poor blind senses know. --Amy Lowell

Good sex begins when your clothes are still on. --William Masters & Virginia Johnson

To climb to the heights, sex education is not enough. We need to learn how to love. --Joseph & Lois Bird

Our organic drives and urges are never separable from the search for meaning and the quest for communion. --James Nelson

Sexual love is socially responsible; nurturing the fabric of the larger community to which the lovers belong. --James Nelson

Sexual love is joyous; it is exuberant in its appreciation of love’s mystery and life’s gift. --James Nelson

Sex is more than sensation and is within life rather than outside or apart from other experiences. --C. Leon Hopper

The sacred meaning of sexuality is not located in sexuality itself, but rather in human mutuality. . .Sexuality is a mode in which mutuality is expressed. --John Buehrens

The reason people sweat is that they won’t catch fire making love.--Don Rose

Never be ashamed of passion. If you are strongly sexed, you are richly endowed. --Margaret Sanger

Do you have one of your own you like to add?

Operation Beautiful

The goal of the Operation Beautiful website is to end negative self-talk or “Fat Talk.” You are beautiful the way you are. Really.