I am Grateful

Why do we need to be grateful? As this video rightly described: "When I am grateful, I am alive. Gratitude opens the door to freedom. And being grateful is simple." Take time to be grateful today.

What are you grateful? Who are some of these people? How about the universe that supports you?

Students try to get sex ed in school

In a neighborhood with high teen pregnancy rates, students worked to get sex education at school.



Read a separate account desiring sex ed here.

Sex News in Asia - 4/25/11

This post first appeared on the Good Vibrations Magazine.

Malaysia

• Boot camp in Malaysia for effeminate boys slammed. I was appalled to learn about such boot camps!


• Man killed for filming sex act


• Boyfriend, 5 others rape 14-year-old in M’sia


• A group of female Indonesian golf caddies at a resort in Kulai, Malaysia, are doing more than just carrying golfers’ bags and giving golfing tips to players. They also provide sexual services.

Indonesia

• 50 bodyguards for Sasha

India

• Safe sex, pleasure and adventure into the foreground : The Pleasure Project in the Indian Express

China

• Dating clubs for elderly residents will be set up citywide as part of efforts to ease the emotional and financial burden on families.


• ‘Tiger Moms’ popular in China.


• Porn star lived a nun’s life


• China’s Imbalanced Sex Ratio May Lead to Reduced Risk of STIs Among Males


• Sexy ghost too sexy for most?


• China’s serial rape case sparks debate over women ‘saving face’


• 3D porn film beats Avatar at Hong Kong box office

The Philippines

• ‘Courage Unfolds’ video to be launched in May. A 33-minute documentary, which is the first project of its kind about the Yogyakarta Principles and LGBT rights in Asia, will be screened in Hong Kong, Beijing and Cambodia in May while many other countries including the Philippines, Indonesia and Thailand are in the process of planning events around the video.

Taiwan

• Taiwan presidential hopeful brushes off ‘gay’ question

Vietnam

• Recently the vietnamese supermodel Ngoc Quyen “bravely” launched completely nude photos which she took in the woods of Moc Chau plateau in the northern province of Son La, Viet Nam on some newspapers. Read the reactions here. View the Pictures here

Pakistan

• Pakistan’s transgender tribe of tax collectors


• Pakistan Supreme Court acquits five in Mukhtar Mai rape case

Bangladesh

• Only 14, Bangladeshi girl charged with adultery was lashed to death

Japan

• Radioactive iodine found in breast milk of Japanese mothers

Disclaimer: Some of these media reports may portray sex and sexuality in a negative light. I am merely re-reporting them and may not always agree with the reports or opinions expressed.



Dr. Martha Lee is Founder and Clinical Sexologist of Eros Coaching. She is a certified sexologist with a Doctorate in Human Sexuality. She provides sexuality and intimacy coaching for individuals and couples, conducts sexual education workshops and speaks at public events. For more, visit www.eroscoaching.com or email drmarthalee@eroscoaching.com.

Myths about Rape and Sex Abuse

HLN's Richelle Carey reports sixty percent of sex assaults never go reported. She gets to the truth about rape.

Snuggling on the Beach

A love story between a girl and a seal.

Personal note: I don't encourage interfering with wild animals and desensitizing them to humans.

Media: Slow Down, Cowboy!

This article first appeared in the April 2011 issue of Ezyhealth Singapore. Click on image to enlarge/ read.

Pap Smears at Walgreens

Obama celebrates at the Lincoln Memorial, Jon Kyl rounds up abortion statistics to the nearest 90, and "Fox & Friends" explains why there's no need for Planned Parenthood.

Another video about Jon Kyl claims that abortion services account for 90% of Planned Parenthood procedures, but it's not to be taken as fact.

Media: Older, Wiser & Still Sexual

This article first appeared in the March 2011 issue of Ezyhealth Singapore. Click on image to enlarge/ read.

Chatroulette Love Song

A really sweet wedding proposal!

Real Men Campaign

Stars sign up to Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher's DNA Foundation against child sex slavery.



Ashton Kutcher and Demi Moore talk to CNN about their mission to combat child sex trafficking. For more, click here.

Testimonials - His Love, Her Love (Couple Workshop)

"Initially I was rather apprehensive about the workshop being a group session; however after being in the workshop with 2 other couples, I found the other couples' experience sharing to be a very powerful self-reflection tool. I sincerely would like to thanks A*&I* for sharing how they handle their problem and ideas on how to make it better for me in getting in the mood for sex. I would like to thanks A* and K*. H*. especially for putting all my feelings, hurts and frustrations into words. For a long time, I was so trapped in my own frustrations not knowing how to articulate out in words how I feel, how to make it better for my hubby and myself, how to feel even and to hear them speak out, especially on the point of how "a person can always ask but he should not always expect to be given" brought tears to my eyes. I dare not even think such thought as I was schooled in the belief that the wife always provide. My hubby is especially very much consoled that there is someone out there who feels him. After hearing I* sharing, he no longer feel that he is the only unlucky guy in this world who have to cope with a wife who face pain when having sex. And seeing how A*&I* being caucasians and having the same problem sort of drive home the point that it can happen to anyone. He is now more patient and accepting of my condition. He also now grasp some basic tools on how to make our sex life more happening and he is more accepting of his share of responsibility and actions in making interesting sex happen instead of just asking and expecting it to happen. And in this day and age where divorce is the second word next to marriage, to see a couple working so hard to save their marriage, is so inspirational. It makes me treasure my marriage more and have a little more patience and love to work things out and talk things out. Silence is not the best policy in marriage I guess :)" - Participant, April 2011 "It was great to learn new techniques (sex positions that we've never tried/ erotic massages etc), as well as being able to be in a 'safe' environment to communicate with my partner. It was great to be working together- to achieve the same goal! It was also good to be in a small group, to have others share their experiences/ problems with the rest of the group. I think this week end was a HUGE help for us. Only a few weeks ago he wasn't sure there was a future for us, and now we're starting afresh, looking towards our move to the UK, and are really happy! I still have a lot of issues to work on- both in the sex department, but also in my mind. I'm still not as confident as I would like to be, but there is hope. This week end really helped me see that I can be the woman he needs and wants. =)" - Participant, April 2011 "This workshop was full of good exercises and I want to try one by one with weekly bases. But before starting any exercises, I would like to start to read "Becoming a positive sexual person" with my husband. Because I want him to understand that woman also wants to enjoy the sex as much as man.(he has never touched my genital by hand) By him realizing that fact, he and I might be able to be on the same page to enjoy the sex together. Eye-opening, powerful and enthusiastic workshop! I will recommend to all couples who desire to build strong trust and valuable relationship." - Participant, April 2011

The Truth About Orgasms

The Truth About Orgasms -- Fun Facts and Stats You NEED to Know


Via: Medical Insurance for LemonDrop

Sex News in Asia - 4/19/11

This article first appeared on the Good Vibrations Magazine.
Singapore

• Fridae interviews Singaporean artist Michael Lee, whose latest work Office Orchitect is showing at the Singapore Biennale, about his legacy of homoerotic art. His first gay-themed work One Or Zero (1997) is still banned in Singapore despite having bagged the first prize in the experimental category of the United Film and Video Association Student Film Competition.


• Singapore mum rescues daughter from 'mamasan'


• Woman in "forbidden love" hoax fears for her safety. He is 23-year-old "Mark" and his 47-year-old fiancée is "Audrey”.

Malaysia

• Malaysia says no to sex education


• Sex and politics
  
  
  
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• A Transvestite’s Journey to a New Beginning


• A father who lost custody of his 11-year-old daughter to her American mother two weeks ago is now pining for her, claiming that he had never abused her.

Indonesia

• Wedding in prison: 'Bali Nine' groom ties the knot. The question is whether they are allowed to consummate their marriage?

The Philippines

• McDonald's pulls Philippine ad amid church anger. This from a country where divorce and abortions are illegal in the Philippines, while sales of condoms are restricted.


• ABS-CBN highlights Filipino representation at the recent Gay and Lesbian Alliance Against Defamation Media Awards which honours media outlets and TV shows for positive representations of LGBTs and the issues affecting their lives.

China

• Sex & Zen at premiere of Hong Kong's first 3D erotic film


• Prostitution ring boasting army of workers busted


• Briton claims he was Dowager's sex slave


• Taiwan planning special sex zones

Korea

• Are K-Pop girl group dances becoming raunchier?

Vietnam

• Principal had sex with 8 students in exchange for higher grades

Disclaimer: Some of these media reports may portray sex and sexuality in a negative light. I am merely re-reporting them and may not always agree with the reports or opinions expressed.

Dr. Martha Lee is Founder and Clinical Sexologist of Eros Coaching. She is a certified sexologist with a Doctorate in Human Sexuality. She provides sexuality and intimacy coaching for individuals and couples, conducts sexual education workshops and speaks at public events. For more, visit www.eroscoaching.com or email drmarthalee@eroscoaching.com.

Book Review: I’m Too Young to Have Breast Cancer

When you open I’m Too Young to Have Breast Cancer, you will be faced with this statistic: “This year, approximately 11,000 women under age 40 will be diagnosed with breast cancer, and close to 1,300 will die.”

Published in 2004, the author Beth Leibson-Hawkins wrote this book when she could not find a book about young breast cancer survivors for her friend Roberta. She was looking for a collection of intimate conversations between survivors and readers, rather than a prescriptive medical text. She searched bookstores and cruised the Internet, but couldn’t find any that were devoted to women diagnosed at or before age forty.

Roberta turned the tables, and suggested that Beth be the one to write such a book. The moment of reckoning came when Beth “looked at Roberta’s greenish complexion, her thinning hair, accented with a touch of gray that she couldn’t dye during treatment. “Of course,” I said. “Of course I can write a book about breast cancer.”

This personal anecdote left me teary-eyed, but I was sceptical about the actual results. Surely, not every person who thinks they can write, and who goes on to publish, will produce a book worth reading. I was wrong and glad to be. I’m Too Young to Have Breast Cancer is a true labour of love by an extraordinary woman who cares and possesses the sensitivity and maturity to carry this subject matter with the dignity it deserves.

I was quickly drawn into the story of the first survivor – who else but Roberta – and swept away by the whirlwind of events which Roberta experienced. It was brutally honest, brave, and all in all, inspiring. I went on to read another account, and another. I found myself crying at some parts, empathising with how some women had to go for multiple surgeries – from lumpectomy to mastectomy, or even opting for prophylactic mastectomy. There are sixteen in total – women from all over the United States, in urban, suburban, and rural settings. Some have a life partner, others live alone; some have children, others do not. I found myself looking forward for the italicised text at the end of each account elaborating how each survivor was doing or how her life has moved on since breast cancer – a happy ending of sorts.

I’m Too Young to Have Breast Cancer considers how breast cancer affects the young women’s lives into these sections: Work and career; Sexuality and dating; Pregnancy, children and family; and lastly, Family, religion, and spirituality. Though neatly categorised, I liked how Leibson-Hawkins interweaved accounts from previous themes where applicable in subsequent ones so we could have a more complete picture. The book does show how women came to terms with dating during treatment and after, with their altered bodies and sexuality, and making decisions about breast reconstruction.

If you are a young woman who have just been diagnosed with breast cancer or if you know a young woman who has been diagnosed with breast cancer, you should consider getting this book. This book will be a valuable resource. Each person’s journey may be different but one can find some solace and comfort in knowing that she is not alone.

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Dr. Martha Lee is Founder and Clinical Sexologist of Eros Coaching. She is a certified sexologist with a Doctorate in Human Sexuality. She provides sexuality and intimacy coaching for individuals and couples, conducts sexual education workshops and speaks at public events. For more, visit www.eroscoaching.com or email drmarthalee@eroscoaching.com.

It Gets Better: Apple Employees

Apple employees share a personal message for the It Gets Better Project.

The T-Mobile Royal Wedding

Watch the wedding entrance dance to top all wedding entrance dances. T-Mobile's Royal Wedding Dance celebrates the marriage of William and Kate with the help of a host of royal look alikes and music from East 17! T-Mobile wishes William and Kate a long and happy marriage.





House of Brides

The Power of Words

This short film illustrates the power of words to radically change your message and your effect upon the world. Have a beautiful day!

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Three e-Books by Eros Coaching

28 Days of Eros

The idea of this e-book came back as I developed daily lessons as part of my online project celebrating love, romance and eros in the month of February called Febulove. Read one eros love lesson everyday for 28 days and see your sex life transformed!

You will

• Learn on the go through our bite-sized instruction


• Receive practical tips on how to be a sensual and sexual person!


• Build upon what you have already learned!

More details here!

 



Essays on Eros

This e-book is a compilation of past work I wrote during 2010. It not just talks about my journey to being a sexologist, defines sexual terms, addresses issues about male and female topics, but also includes tips on how to be on your way to be a more positive sexual person.

You will

• Receive 35 essays spanning seven parts and 101 pages!


• Gain insights into different aspects of sex and sexuality!


• Begin to develop your own insights into your sexuality!

More details here!

 



Eros for Couples

This e-book is a compilation of past work I wrote during the course of 2009 and 2010. I decided to do so because I have found myself repeatedly answering the same issues, topics and questions only in different angles and ways. This e-book tackles how to meaningfully increase sexual intimacy, trust and rekindle passion in people’s lives.

You will

• Receive 12 essays on sex and sexuality for couples in one handy booklet!


• Receive practical tips on how to keep erotic passion going!


• Gain a better idea of how to approach the taboo subject of communicating about sex!

More details here!

Sex News in Asia - 4/10/11

This article first appeared on Good Vibrations Magazine.

Singapore

• Rapist in Zouk case gets 7 years and 8 strokes


• Photos of man in ‘army skirt’ create buzz. Read how else the army has been making the news for the wrong reasons locally and internationally.


• Opinion piece: Why, in some situations, it makes sense to let religious citizens speak up on their convictions. This may appear to be about only religious but what happens when religion decides how sexuality education should be conducted in schools?


• Forum letter: No respect for the pregnant

Malaysia

• Perkasa president Datuk Ibrahim Ali appeared to suggest it was Datuk Seri Dr Wan Azizah Wan Ismail’s fault that her husband, Datuk Seri Anwar Ibrahim, was allegedly recorded having sex with a prostitute.


• Gay couples and those seeking political asylum make up the 180 Malaysians who have sought asylum in the United Kingdom since 2005.

Thailand

• Thai private eye lifts curtain on cheating spouses

China

• Scientists get step closer to HIV vaccine


• Mavis Pan in "Sex" sequel


• Shanghai police rebut "rumours" surrounding gay bar raid as one detainee plans to sue. More updates


• Chinese actress’ mum attacks her on TV


• Taiwanese woman pays husband RM10K for sex

The Philippines

• Male and single? Get a Cloud Girlfriend


• The government of the Philippines has bolstered its efforts to counter human trafficking ahead of the US State Department's 2011 Trafficking Persons Report

Bangladesh

• Women catch up with literate men


• Despite various government and non-governmental initiatives to stem child marriage in Bangladesh, parents are continuing to marry off their underage daughters. One wonders if the parents would do so if they had any other options.

Japan

• How far can you get away from danger? Pregnant women and mothers of young babies in Japan are getting mixed signals about how far away they should be from the nuclear-power-plant disaster. With the government's evacuation advice considered lax, volunteers are stepping in.

Korea

• Park Hyun-Jin in prostitution scandal

Australia

• New sex scandal rocks Australian military

Disclaimer: Some of these media reports may portray sex and sexuality in a negative light. I am merely re-reporting them and may not always agree with the reports or opinions expressed.

Dr. Martha Lee is Founder and Clinical Sexologist of Eros Coaching. She is a certified sexologist with a Doctorate in Human Sexuality. She provides sexuality and intimacy coaching for individuals and couples, conducts sexual education workshops and speaks at public events. For more, visit www.eroscoaching.com or email drmarthalee@eroscoaching.com.

E-Book: Eros for Couples

This e-book is a compilation of past work I wrote during the course of 2009 and 2010.

I decided to pool the articles to make an e-book because I have found myself repeatedly answering the same issues, topics and questions only in different angles and ways. Therefore, I realised that there must be a urgent need to get this sexual information out, whether it’s about the changes that happens to a woman after the delivery of her baby; her consequent lack of sexual interest; the ongoing discrepancy in a couple’s sex drives; ways to improve sexual communication, or how to meaningfully increase sexual intimacy, trust and rekindle passion in people’s lives.

I have come across many people, individuals and couples alike, who sit on their sexual problems, choose to suffer in silence and seek my services only after the frustration and resentment had built up for far too long. There really is no need to.

You will

Receive 12 essays on sex and sexuality for couples in one handy booklet!

Receive practical tips on how to keep erotic passion going!

Gain a better idea of how to approach the taboo subject of communicating about sex!

The essays are:

1. Catch your ‘Wind’
2. Real Moms: Body after Baby
3. Exercises for Yummy Sex after baby: Post-pregnancy exercises to help your body prepare for sex again
4. Talking to your Child about Sex: Appropriate language for different ages
5. Your Other ‘Baby’: Your Husband
6. Sex? Not Interested: Why; and What to do if a Woman Loses Interest in Sex
7. Sexual Communication: Asking for what you want in bed
8. The House of Love: Eight Tips to Improve your Relationship
9. Just the Two of Us: How to bring Romance to Each Other’s Sex Lives
10. Keep the Fire Going: Sex doesn’t need to end after Baby
11. Keeping the Romance Alive
12. Aromatherapy for Sexual Healing, Romance and Passion

Purchase Eros for Couples by Eros Coaching for just S$19.90 today!

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